They're engaged??

crfische

receiving a sacrament is a big deal in the catholic church.  we really took it seriously.

I promise I'm not trying to be judgey, just genuinely curious. If you take it really seriously, then why engage in pre marital sex at all? Unless, I suppose you didn't know that this was the person you were going to receive the sacrament with until you got engaged, and then made the decision. Am I right?

akhensley81

Kiki & Fische... when FI and I were going through our pre-cana stuff with the Catholic church, the Deacon we met with asked us if we were planning to abstain from sex during our engagement. When FI gave him a look like he might have lost his mind, he explained that the church sees a period of abstinence has a cleansing/healing time (similar to why people "give up" things they like for Lent), and that it's recommended along with reconciliation before a couple gets married.

Growing up Catholic, I totally understood what he meant.

But as soon as we walked out of the church, FI looked at me and said "we're not really going to do that, right?" So the whole idea went out the window for us.

crfische

Well, I didn't know that, Hens. Makes sense I suppose if you were raised that way.

kikibaby

Ok, I see what you're saying.  I guess being the satan worshipper I am (joke), it's pointless to me.  But, to each their own- if it makes you feel better, go for it.

And honestly, I don't understand 99% of Catholicism, so I guess there's that

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]But as soon as we walked out of the church, <strong>FI looked at me and said "we're not really going to do that, right?"</strong> So the whole idea went out the window for us.
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

HA!  That's exactly what my FI did after we went through the pre-cana.

akhensley81

Hehe yeah FI is not Catholic - and actually he's kind of anti-Catholic - and I'm so very proud of him for just putting up with pre-cana and agreeing to be married in a Catholic church, I saw no point in pressing the issue any more.

And now that we've all learned something today, I vote we all go home.

I should say, he's not "anti-Catholic" as much as he's just livid about all the problems the Church has been having lately, and the Church's seeming lack of ability to do anything about it. Which I'm not necessarily happy about either.

vallyhoo

Are the Palins Catholic? Or did this conversation just take a tangent?

akhensley81

vally we might have just made a hard left. I'm not sure if the Palin's are Catholic or not.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Pfft, old news. ;-)

Haven't read all the comments, but I think if you're scared to tell your parents you're engaged (she told the magazine before her mom), something is very wrong.

crfische

NO VALLY, The Palin's are Republican. Durr.

vallyhoo

okay just checking AK

and besides everyone knows they're abstaining beacuse Bristol's pregnant again!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Are the Palins Catholic? Or did this conversation just take a tangent?
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

<div>No, they're Pentecostal.</div>

danieliza1127

The Catholic stuff just came in to play because Calypso said that's why she and her FI decided to be abstinent during their engagement, saying maybe Bristol and Levi had a similar good reason. 

vallyhoo

O'Fishy you always set me straight

crfische

I'm not Irish.

vallyhoo

are you sure about that?

crfische

STOP QUESTIONING ME.

vallyhoo

h'okay then.

akhensley81

Google isn't helping me with this too much. Apparently Sarah was raised Catholic but switched. I found an online Catholic forum who is also talking about this, but they're just being judgy and nobody has brought up the abstinence thing.

L-Bride

Calypso- This isn't meant to come off as rude I'm just generally curious. Did you find it difficult to just stop having sex I assume you had regularly? I feel like suddenly stopping would put a strain on your relationship but maybe it did the opposite for you.

crfische

Vally, did you just call me a h'o?

vallyhoo

STOP QUESTIONING ME!

crfische

I will have you know that I stopped being a h'o after I had my baby.

Full circle. I make them.

Simply Fated

Someone asked this... Sarah Paln is Christian, supposedly Pentecostal.

There are rumours that they (Bristol and Levi) might be getting together to do a reality tv show. I, for one, love train wrecks, so FINGERS CROSSED that this rumour is true!

This engagement was all over the news. I tried to see what FOX News had to say and the only article I could find when I searched for "Bristol Palin" was an article that states Levi took back some things he had said about Sarah. It didn't say what he took back. It then listed some things he had said, AS IF he took those things back.
This was as of yesterday.

vallyhoo

from this angle it looks more like an oval


O'Val


I win.

crfische

Sweet Jesus.

loop0406

I don't understand how she is NOW abstaining from sex with him till marriage when they already have a child ? ....whatever !

arv266

My prediction is that her Mom is in full gear to run for President in 2012... Can't have Madam President having baby momma drama....

akhensley81

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[QUOTE]My prediction is that her Mom is in full gear to <strong>run for President in 2012</strong>... Can't have Madam President having baby momma drama....
Posted by arv266[/QUOTE]

Please. No.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They're engaged?? : Please. No.
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

Exactly my thoughts. And I'm a Republican.