Money Dance

crutonlover

Happy Monday everyone!

Our DJ and I are constantly going back and forth about having a money dance at our reception.

The DJ thinks that its fun to do and is not rude/innappropriate.

I can't really decide if I want to do it or not because I'm afraid some people will find it tacky.

What are your thoughts on money dances?

WildRumpus

General consensus is that they're tacky. I'm guessing by you saying your DJ is pushing it, that it's not common in your area or with your circle of friends and family. If that's the case, I would say skip it.

baystateapple

I wouldn't do the money dance unless it is tradition in your family/ethnicity.  If you are having any thoughts that it might make you uncomfortable the day of, I wouldn't do it.

verymegv

you're not a stripper, therefore no one should be sticking singles in your outfit.

but like PPs said, if you're uncomfortable then don't do it. most people feel them to be tacky unless they happen to be common in your area. plus, do you really want people rubbing dirty money all over your gorgeous dress?

Mrs.B6302007

For all the weddings I've been to, I've only seen it once and it wasn't a cultural thing. It was a blatant money grab.  I would skip it.

Stackeye210

It is very much the norm to do dollar dances in my area of people. . . . however, we skipped it, and I don't think anyone noticed whatsoever. 

opalsky007

I would skip it unless someone would be seriously offended by you NOT having one.

Heck, even if everyone in the world does want one, if you don't feel right about it, don't do it. My MIL was pushing it on me hardcore and I just said, no, this is ridiculous, anyone who wants to dance can dance with me for free.

Birdie1483

If you're on the fence about having one, then I would skip it. Dollar dances to me are ony of those things that you pretty much know you're going to do it because they're popular where you are, or they're not and might seem weird if you did it.

BrideCa2011

I would skip it- I am not really a fan.  

MissKate2011

I think it's very tacky unless it is a cultural tradition.

Judith233

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:25a3f692-d155-455e-907e-46a6c675d767Post:b4bd99e3-c567-4182-b80e-79af92b5b52d">Re: Money Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]I would say skip it. I know how you feel, my mother thinks I should have one. (It's a polish tradition) Mainly because my cousin had one, and tbh I thought it was tacky when she had hers. Not only because it's asking people for more money (than they already paid to come to your wedding and bring a gift), but in her particular case - She had a type of reception hall where she had to set up/clean up herself. So because our family is so helpful and laid back, we all started cleaning up too, and <strong>she watched us clean while she counted the money from the bucket. Ick, talk about tacky there.
</strong>Posted by SkettiHeadie[/QUOTE]

Gross

lbow1984

Our DJ also tried to push this on us a bit and I just said no.  She said well sometimes people actually come up and ask when is the dollar dance going to be, but I said just let them know there won't be one.  It's not culturally relevant to us in particular and I've never seen one done (not that I've been to many weddings at all), but I just didn't feel comfortable myself doing it and she said no problem.

GeauxTigers17

Why do DJs try to push this? It's interesting that they care, because they aren't getting anything out of it, right?

lbow1984

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_money-dance-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:25a3f692-d155-455e-907e-46a6c675d767Post:a6f9df3f-df67-4f24-a92b-b29bdf1cc513">Re: Money Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]Why do DJs try to push this? It's interesting that they care, because they aren't getting anything out of it, right?
Posted by GeauxTigers17[/QUOTE]

I think our DJ might have been pushing it a bit b/c she herself is Polish and they do quite a few Polish weddings and from what I read up above someone said it's a Polish tradition?  That being said once I told her I just wasn't comfortable doing it and that if anyone asked to please just tell them there won't be one she was fine with it.

Pookie583

Aside from being tacky, I find them to be a bit awkward for guests. You end up waiting for your turn to dance with the bride or groom and don't feel as though you can dance with your date if you happen to like the song.

Pirata13

I would skip it, especially if you are not comfortable doing it. We skipped it (at my insistence) and I am glad.

I was in a wedding in January and they did it and to be honest, it was a total party-killer. Talk about boring, watching people line up and dance with the groom and bride. The MOH standing there collecting money like a bouncer at the door. Tacky, tacky, tacky. My friend didn't tell me they were going to do it, probably because she knows I would judge. And I would. I have also judged her for calling off work after nights of drinkingso obviously we have different standards.

But anyway, my vote=skip it.

AmberMarieTX

I see you are from Houston. He is probably used to seeing both having and not having the dance. My FI's family from Lake Charles, Louisiana (a couple hours east of Houston) are surprised that I am not doing it, and they don't really see it as anything weird. I have only seen it in weddings in Louisiana, never here in the DFW area. I think it must be a regional thing.

crutonlover

Thanks so much!! Your responses really helped...we are not going to do one because I just really don't feel comfortable with it.  I feel like I'm pressuring people to dance with us and give us money...definitely not my style.

I never thought about it being a regional thing...our DJ was originally from Louisana, so maybe that's why.

kellyupdegraff

Woah!! That's not a lousiana thing. Seriously people LEAVE weddings of that sort of thing happens.