I'm having kids at my wedding. Because they're a part of our families, because we are lucky enough to be able to afford it, because it allows for less drama.
but the real reason is this...true story:
when i was six my aunt (mom's younger sis) got married. i was the FG and my mom was a BM. my 3yo sister was not in the WP but was at the ceremony.
as soon as she saw my mom walk down the aisle she started crying because she wanted her mom. my dad picked her up to carry her out. as soon as he does she starts WAILING. as they reach the back of the synangogue she shouts in a shrill 3yo voice "DON'T DO THIS TO ME" like she was tyring to win an oscar. it was amazingly dramatic.
while this could certainly be construed as "ruining the wedding" this is the family story we take out at almost every gathering. no one ever talks about my mom's or her other sister's wedding. this is the one relive. becuase it was human and funny. a crying child doesn't ruin anything. they might distract briefly and create a pseudo-blooper reel for you. my aunt and uncle were still married. and i want a silly moment too. (or at least, i don't fear it).
