Still send an invite?

aro1589

Hi guys.
our save the dates went out a few weeks ago and we have already had people tell us they won't be able to attend (out of town guests).  Should we still send them an invite?  I have no problem sending out invites even if I know the response is 'no' but I don't want to seem pushy/seem like I'm begging them to come after they've told us they couldn't make it.

What's the proper etiquette here?

raes19

Yes, still send them an invite. They might change their minds between now and the wedding.

MrsL2014

Yep, still send them the invite! If they got a save the date they should still receive an invite, sometimes plans change.

kaitlynmichelle

I would send an invite anyways.  Their plans might change, and they might be able to attend after all.  You could put in a personal note saying that you will miss them if they are still unable to attend.  

erollis

I would assume if I got a save the date I would be getting an invitation (std = invite). Like others have said plans can change and they will be able to come. 

RamonaFlowers

STD = invitation. Always.


Well, "always", unless the person, like, tried to kill you or sleep with your FI or something. But otherwise? Always.

Knittibell

We've had quite a few, as well. Apart from 2 couples in England, who actually wrote a lovely note thanking us for the STD, but informing us that they would not be able to attend, and that they were writing to let us know in order to save us postage, etc...

Those 2 people we won't send invites to, as they've essentially already formally RSVP'd, but people who mentioned in passing they can't come- they'll get an invite.

random4180

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_still-send-an-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2619ecd4-fab2-48f1-a143-e6b794a10dadPost:36c4aa94-0deb-40b0-82b8-5656ef11a27d">Re: Still send an invite?</a>:
[QUOTE]We've had quite a few, as well. Apart from 2 couples in England, who actually wrote a lovely note thanking us for the STD, but informing us that they would not be able to attend, and that they were writing to let us know in order to save us postage, etc... Those 2 people we won't send invites to, as they've essentially already formally RSVP'd, but people who mentioned in passing they can't come- they'll get an invite.
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</div><div>Similar situation- we've got friends in South Korea, Taiwan, and Poland who have already essentially RSVP'd. It's expensive postage and they understand that we don't have a lot of money. They knew months ago they couldn't make the trip (a month's salary for the guy in South Korea and the family in Taiwan is in the process of moving to Poland so there was no way they could afford a trip to the US too.) </div><div>But then we also have a friend in the military who said he might not make it but we sent him one anyway because, hey, you never know. 
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