Small issue but one I have been grappling with. I will be at the ceremony when the vendor arrives to set up our cake. She will be leaving before we are at the reception location. Do I give the tip for this vendor to the person who will be overseeing the set up of the cake? Or, as we are going to see and give final approval of the cake the day before (as I as not able to do a tasting due to distance, she has asked me to come in to do a final approval the night before) should I give it then?
Neither feels totally right as in one case it will be before services are rendered, cancelling out the whole point of a tip. But in the other case, I will not be there to approve the set up (not that I anticipate issues) so it would be a vendor who gets a tip on a set up I have not seen which makes me feel a little like I am not tipping her but someone else is. I guess it probably doesn't matter, but if I tip a vendor, I want them to know it is because I loved what they did.
*sigh* and thoughts?