Invite help

lringue

My parents are hosting my wedding with us. they are also paying for the venue and food. My invite will read together with our parents. My mom has approved this but I understand that the response cards go to the hosts of the wedding.  I DON'T want any response card sent to her she is very scattered and has a lot on her plate outside from the wedding. is it alright to have everything sent to me? Also how is a good way to break this to her. I guess she thinks she will be in charge of my side of the families invites my Fi parents would be in charge of his side of the families invites and we are in charge of our friends invites. Isn't it better to keep all invites together?

misshart00

I think it's fine to have all of your response cards sent to you. I wouldn't even mention it to your mom unless she asks. Then just tell her you have the spreadsheet or something with all your guests to keep track.

misssunshine17

Definitely have them printed with your address and play it off as something you never even thought of. I know I wouldn't have thought about it, had you not posted about it. 

HandBanana

I would just have them sent to you then. The more important part is the wording of the invite which traditionally indicates who is hosting.

lringue

Thanks my Fi parents want to host as well but they feel because they cant put much money into the wedding that tey arent considered hosts. I told them that its ok we dont expect them to pay for things but if they could help with other things like communication with family members about the wedding, support, advice ect..

achiduck

It's fine to have them sent to your house.

jessicabessica

I would have all the cards sent to you and enter the response info into a Google docs spreadsheet that you can share with the parents, if they want.  That way they are still involved in seeing the RSVPs come in, but you are the only one responsible for keeping track.

Jen4948

Have the cards sent to you.  I like the idea of tracking responses in a spreadsheet.

Regardless of how much your FILs contribute financially, if they're performing the duties of hosts, then they're hosts.  Financial contributions really have nothing to do with that.