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ootmother2

Your wedding is over 2 years off!

Wait at least a year before you even start thinking about your bridal party.


GL

misshart00

As long as she's your closest friend, choose her. She only needs to buy the dress and stand next to you on your wedding day (and maybe hold your bouquet during the ceremony).

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If you want to choose your sister, choose her. There is no reason for her to be flying back and forth, since there are no "duties" to assign her.

daubachsgirl23

You don't need to worry about picking a WP yet.  I wouldn't do so until a year out.  If you lurk on this board and the WP board, you'll see a lot of people who asked their BMs far in advance and now regret it.

FWIW, My sister/MOH lives out of state also.  MOH don't have any real "duties" aside from buying the dress and showing up to stand by your side. If she wants to be involved in planning pre-shower activities, I am sure she can do some of that from afar.

I see you're from Hawaii--I'm kind of the inverse of you. I live in Boston and my sister lives in Honolulu.

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Your maid of honor should be the person who means the most to you, not the person who's most able to help you. My sister/ MOH lives across the country (I'm in NY, she's in OR) and just had a baby in May, so she definitely has not been able to fly out and help for things. But, she's still my sister and my best friend. She's still been there for me when I need to talk. Actually, she's still planning a bridal shower and a bachelorette, which I'm super grateful for and was pretty surprised at, considering everything. But, most importantly, I can't imagine anyone else as my maid of honor. So...I don't see the issue really...