Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!)

[Deleted User]

CN: Is it rude to have an "after party" where we will host the open bar and snacks 2 hours after the reception?

Things to note:

--I'm already being borderline rude because the ceremony and the reception are not close together (slightly over 30 minutes).

--It's destination and the reception and after-party will be held on the Las Vegas strip next to each other

--The reception will be at a restaurant with no DJ/Dancing and maybe just wine with dinner.

Would you want to go back to the hotel, change into something casual and go out?  Or does it need to roll right after the dinner? And if that is the case how long do you anticipate the dinner will last? We have the place for 4 hours, but including a cocktail hour, I can't imagine it lasting that long.

*I know I need to breathe, but I don't want to sign the contracts with the time listed until I know that I'm not asking too much of my guests.*

shellydiane820

I think it would be fun, some people like going out after the reception.

sucrets4

Okay, this confused me because it said that kiki posted it.

Haha, what you are doing is so NOT rude compared to some of the crap that gets posted on here.

I think that if you wish to host an after party then go ahead and do so!  As a guest, I'd appreciate anything extra that you'd be willing to host.

Lyss5782

If I came to your wedding and you were offering to buy me drinks later that night I would think that was awesome...why would it be rude???

nda_roxybabe

You're clearly expecting us to all hate on your plan?
I think everything sounds fine...
I may or may not want to go back and change, depends how I feel that night.

shellydiane820

Oh wait, do you mean like waiting two hours until the after party?  If so, negatory.

sucrets4

Are you inviting everyone to the after party?  Is everyone staying in/around the same place?

I have no advice on the dinner thing because I'm awful at estimating.  I'd defer to someone else for that.

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_timeline-dont-want-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:272cc266-92f9-463e-b813-5c0d29fbbaffPost:8c9917b7-0db3-4cd0-b673-0e5a5219f3c6">Re: Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!)</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh wait, do you mean like waiting two hours until the after party?  If so, negatory.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

I took it as the after party will last for 2 hours.  She doesn't seem to be dense enough to do what you thought.

sucrets4

(That wasn't a slam on you, shelly.  Apparently I'm having issues with expressing myself tonight.  Sorry.)

nda_roxybabe

I missed the 2 hour thing. Is it possible to not have a set time for the after party and just let it happen? Maybe let the place know ahead of time that you will coming some time that night and for everyone youre with to go on your tab...

lyndausvi

Well I'm not a gap fan, but 30 minutes between events is not being rude.  It's called taking pictures and traveling from one place to another...  Do not think of that as being rude.

I'm all for after-parties.. They are the norm in my family, so I say go for it..

Now, what I do not get is, your are having dinner with no dancing, then you want to have an after-party.. Assuming you are inviting everyone to both events, why not find a location to do both?

I'm not adverse to seperating the 2 events, I just do not get why they need to be seperated?

~mRm~

You totally have the right idea! Start your design and layouts early. As details finalize pull up your layouts, add or changing information as needed. Doing this early will also allow you ample time to order in special paper(if you chose to do so) and print some trial runs! Don't forget to post some pics!!!

lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_timeline-dont-want-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:272cc266-92f9-463e-b813-5c0d29fbbaffPost:62851acc-7d4e-4b50-89da-d5654170d37b">Re: Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!)</a>:
[QUOTE]You totally have the right idea! Start your design and layouts early. As details finalize pull up your layouts, add or changing information as needed. Doing this early will also allow you ample time to order in special paper(if you chose to do so) and print some trial runs! Don't forget to post some pics!!!
Posted by ~mRm~[/QUOTE]

umm.. what post are replying to???

[Deleted User]

Yes, I was worried if the 2 hour difference was just too much time after the dinner.

Ok, I wasn't planning on inviting everyone but I've lurked enough to realize that is a MAJOR *uh uh girlfriend!* (with double snaps in Z formation)

I know that the majority of my fam doesn't really drink and would rather gamble on the strip so I wasn't going to invite them, or any of the grandparents. So I will just give everyone all the same info...or should I word of mouth it?  Wait, am I threadjacking my own thread?

ExpatPumpkin

Instead of an afterparty, why don't you just have a regular reception?  I'm saying this because you're having a DW and the ceremony and dinner are already 30 minutes away from each other...  It might be a little much to expect people to make it to three different venues, especially since they'll be out-of-towners.  Are you providing transporation?

shellydiane820

I thought that too, but when I read it a 2nd time, I got confused.

Its okay though, I am having one of those days anyway.

ExpatPumpkin

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[QUOTE]Yes, I was worried if the 2 hour difference was just too much time after the dinner. Ok, I wasn't planning on inviting everyone but I've lurked enough to realize that is a MAJOR *uh uh girlfriend!* (with double snaps in Z formation) I know that the majority of my fam doesn't really drink and would rather gamble on the strip so I wasn't going to invite them, or any of the grandparents. So I will just give everyone all the same info...or should I word of mouth it?  Wait, am I threadjacking my own thread?
Posted by bearsfan[/QUOTE]

I think it's really rude to expect people to travel for your DW and then not invite them to all of the events.  Please take into consideration that they're traveling to Vegas FOR YOU and your FI.

nda_roxybabe

Is the afterparty place close to the reception place?
T's sister had the ceremony and dinner (just dinner, it was a restuarant) at one place then an after party at an Irish pub elsewhere. I thought it was great.

ExpatPumpkin

Oh, and I had a DW, so I'm certainly not opposed to that sort of celebration.  But I just think you should make it extra-special and worth people's time and money if you're going to have a DW.

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!) : I think it's really rude to expect people to travel for your DW and then not invite them to all of the events.  Please take into consideration that they're traveling to Vegas FOR YOU and your FI.
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]
I got the impression she wasn't going invite everyone everywhere but then she lurked here and learned better. This post is confusing..

ExpatPumpkin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_timeline-dont-want-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:272cc266-92f9-463e-b813-5c0d29fbbaffPost:2ec0164f-fcf4-4f47-b66e-1cbd1712fda3">Re: Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Timeline help (I don't want to be rude!) : I got the impression she wasn't going invite everyone everywhere but then she lurked here and learned better. This post is confusing..
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

You're right.  OP, sorry for having such an abrupt answer.  Sounds like you've already made the decision to invite everyone.  But I'd consider combining the dinner and afterparty into a regular reception.  That might be easier on your guests.

sucrets4

I agree roxy, it is confusing.

You should invite everyone, but word it so that if people would rather go out on the strip, they don't feel guilty doing so.