AW: I might lose my job today

Meg1979

Well, I've missed a TON of work due to my migraines and I'm pretty damn sure that I am going to lose my job today.  I am not excited at all about my evaluation and I am afraid I'm going to snap at them.  They have made me feel like a complete leper.  Meanwhile, the girl with the meth problem is no problem for them. 

I tried to leave the lights off on my side of the room (the only person who works on my side of the room) and my boss said, "Uhm, I don't think we can do that.  Is that okay with everyone?"  So, I she turned it back off and I went and turned it on.  Juvenile, yes, but I'm on so many drugs just to keep me upright.  I don't know.  I just had to vent.

opalsky007

I'm really sorry to hear about that. Can they really fire you for something like that though? Do you finish your tasks, even with the time off?

Whatever they say in there, do your best to keep your cool. Come here and vent after if you need to. Just don't give them any excuse to mark you down on your evaluation.

Stackeye210

I would hope you don't lose your job, but you do sound kind of juvenile about it all.  It's not your concern who your job should or shouldn't have a problem with (i.e. meth girl).  If you're legitimately sick then you should have proof of that, (doctors notes that this is an on going issue that you have).  You have to worry about covering your own a$$, not worry about comparing it to other workers and the issues they have. 

There are no feelings in business and you have to look at it from a boss view point.  They just want the work to get done, that's their job.  Don't get all b*tt hurt because they want productive staff. 

I wish you luck - but change your attitude before your review - you need to really see their POV. 

Meg1979

To be fair to them, I do understand their point of view.  My illness has been heavily documented and I'm being reviewed for FMLA.  I bring up meth girl because I have been compared to her attendance in front of the office.  Which is totally professional.  Like, I've also been compared to folks with cancer or one who had a leg clot.  I get that.  I've also been subjected to pointed stories about people who have been so sick that they have quit because they were a burden to the department.  Which I'm fairly certain that type of pressure is against the law. 

akhensley81

They can't fire you for a health problem, but unfortunately they can fire you for attendance issues - depending on their policy. It might be too late, but have you applied for STD (short-term disability)? That would help protect your job. If you're on STD, they can't fire you for missing work unless they want to be tied up in court for a long, long time.

But I agree with PPs- I totally understand feeling disgruntled (I would, too) - but if you truly don't want to lose your job, try to go in with a positive attitude, hear what they have to say, and focus your response on the positive things you're doing (or plan to do) to try to rectify the situation.

If you don't care or at this point would rather lose the job, then just let it happen. But don't burn any bridges, if you can help it. You never know when you might need a reference. And if your state's laws are like Michigan's, you should be able to file for unemployment and collect while you're looking for something else.

xyrius

I'm sorry to hear that.  I agree that you should try and stay positive and just come here and vent if you need to instead.  I've been fired before and I know it's one of the worst feelings ever.  Try and keep your chin up.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]To be fair to them, I do understand their point of view.  My illness has been heavily documented and I'm being reviewed for FMLA.  I bring up meth girl because I have been compared to her attendance in front of the office.  Which is totally professional.  Like, I've also been compared to folks with cancer or one who had a leg clot.  I get that.  I've also been subjected to pointed stories about people who have been so sick that they have quit because they were a burden to the department.  Which I'm fairly certain that type of pressure is against the law. 
Posted by Meg1979[/QUOTE]

Well definitely don't let them pressure you.  I hope you can get FMLA - while the non pay part of that sucks, it is security.  I hope you can get to the cause of the migraines so they can just stop all together.  Just stay positive and talk about what you do for the company that isn't migraine related.  Acknowledge you know that the attendance is an issue but that you have the documentation to prove it's legit. 

I get migraines on occassion, but nothing like that.  I know a lady at my job that has suffered from migraines for many, many years.  In June she switched to a gluten free diet and hasn't had one since.  She said it's the most amazing feeling ever. 

Meg1979

I'm supposed to see a migraine specialist at University of Miami next week.  They unfortunately haven't gotten down to what is going on.  I want to be productive, I want to feel good, you know?  I suffered a car accident awhile ago and they have been getting progressively worse. I may also have sleep apnea.  I've tried the diet thing and I've also been tested for a gluten intolerance.  Those were negative.  Well, the diet helped my weight.  I'm sorry to sounds like a little baby.  I just feel terrible and guilty for letting my boss down. 

baystateapple

Ugh, I'm sorry.  That sucks.  My sister's having similar problems for her absences -- she has epilepsy and on days when she's had a seizure and she can hardly even stand upright afteward, she has to call out, and she's had a ton of absences.  They dropped her from full time to part time.  It sucks, but there's nothing you can do in that situation.

Here's hoping for the best for you. :-\

Meg1979

I would take part-time over losing my job.  That's horrible.  I know how she feels.  I really hate the side-eye, the comments, all of it.  They have been accomodating in a lot of ways, but there's nastiness, too.  I'll just try not to worry about it. 

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dude, that really stinks. sorry, i hope it works out.

JanoBean75

I hope they don't fire you, I know what it's like to suffer through migraines. I have to get my meds changed again, because they make me super nauseated. Unfortunately, I have to suffer through mine at work because I run the place and there's no one to cover (short staffed and only four keyholders allowed). So I just inhale coffee and Coke.

Meg1979

I tend to get into cyclic vomiting (TMI, I know) and I've actually broken blood vessels in my eye because of it.  It's scary.  I've been on SO many drugs.  I've tried acupuncture, massage therapy...almost everything.  It's nice to know that there are other people out there with the same problem.  Oh, and lately they are intractable, which means it can last up to 72 hours.  It's just like, insane.

Meg1979

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[QUOTE]I found that my migraines were caused by nutrasweet.  As soon as I stopped using Equal and drinking diet pop with aspartame my migraines went away.  If you use artifical sweeteners, stick to spelnda or sweet'n low and see if that helps.
Posted by gailpete[/QUOTE]

That's a good idea.  I drink diet soda, which I know I really shouldn't do, I'll try to stop and see what happens.