Wow...here's a doozy...

ElleB87

So my IL's have these friends who apparently think this plan for their wedding day is the best thing ever

- there will be an A list invited to the ceremony
- a B list comprised of the A list and a few special VIP's invited to the dinner
- a C list comprised of the A list, the B list and a handful of other people invited to the first dancing portion of the evening

...and the best part....

*drum roll please*

At 9 pm the B&G are having a Social (a.k.a a Jack and Jill) - which means charging admission for guests, having a raffle, a cash bar and serving pretzels and cold cuts for sustanance

Seriously. These azzhats are actually charging admission to part of their tiered reception. H and I are invited to the Social only and were threatened (by the bride) that if we didn't buy tickets and attend there would be hell to pay. I've met this couple once, H has met them maybe 3 times.  Oh, and the invitation to this shindig was sent by e-mail. They didn't even try to hide the fact that they are having a tiered reception or are charging admission for part of the evening.

Avion22

Wow.  

Yeah, I think I would be "busy" that night.  And if she presses you to still buy a ticket, then tell her you have some kind of emergency financial obligation (your washer just broke and you need to buy a new one?) and can't afford extra expenses right now.

Starqueg

I got invited to a tiered wedding recently, 11 days before the wedding.  We decided not to attend.  Thankfully, the only thing we would have had to pay for was a gift (or card) if we had gone.  

kmmssg

Maybe you could mention the knot?  Maybe we could set her straight?  Maybe we could set her so straight that  she would feel bad for our husbands and call us old hags?  Please tell me  you and IL's aren't going.

ElleB87

We're definitely not going. H even talked to his mother and told her how incredibly rude the whole idea is and she said "yeah I know, but it's what they want to do"...so what if it's what they want to do?

*headdesk*

ElleB87

The IL's are going...they are invited to the whole shebang. And by doing so they are encouraging this ridiculousness.

melb2013

People are insane.  Are they never taught manners?

goobersinlove

Wow. I don't know why this stuff surprises me anymore, but it does.  People always seem to find a way to take a rude thing (tiered reception) and make it even ruder (charging admission), and still find a way to take it to another level (threatening/bullying you into coming).

HandBanana

Where do couples get the idea that their weddings are so awesome and people will want to go so badly that they would pay? 

Are they confusing gifts with paying admission?

TaraMc728

If they expect you to but a ticket, you are not a guest, you are a customer.  They should be serving you.  i would not go either if that happened to me.  it is tacky and rude. 

MJandDL

Wow. I would have no problem telling this bride to her face that charging me to come to her wedding is incredibly rude and distasteful. And their gift would be a lump of coal. 

Out of curiousity, how much is the "admission fee" for the social?

lindsaynewbride10

For once, I'm left speechless.

lauraanne9

Wow.  Just wow.

There is NO way I would go to that.  I thought the cash bar that my SIL suggested was horrifying (ok it still is) but not as bad in comparison to a tiered reception with admission.

And, I have to ask...admission pays for what exactly?  A pretzel???

MerAndTrick

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[QUOTE]So my IL's have these friends who apparently think this plan for their wedding day is the best thing ever - there will be an A list invited to the ceremony - a B list comprised of the A list and a few special VIP's invited to the dinner - a C list comprised of the A list, the B list and a handful of other people invited to the first dancing portion of the evening ...and the best part.... *drum roll please* At 9 pm the B&G are having a Social (a.k.a a Jack and Jill) - which means charging admission for guests, having a raffle, a cash bar and serving pretzels and cold cuts for sustanance Seriously. These azzhats are actually charging admission to part of their tiered reception. H and I are invited to the Social only and were threatened (by the bride) that if we didn't buy tickets and attend there would be hell to pay. I've met this couple once, H has met them maybe 3 times.  Oh, and the invitation to this shindig was sent by e-mail. They didn't even try to hide the fact that they are having a tiered reception or are charging admission for part of the evening.
Posted by ElleB87[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>LOL - this sucks... but LOL, the entire thing is so out of this world it's comical.</div>

rajahmd

Wow, just wow.  That's offensive on so many different levels.  The nerve of some people.

ElleB87

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[QUOTE]Wow. I would have no problem telling this bride to her face that charging me to come to her wedding is incredibly rude and distasteful. And their gift would be a lump of coal.  Out of curiousity, how much is the "admission fee" for the social?
Posted by MJandDL[/QUOTE]

I's 15$ a person. lol all I can do is laugh about this. It's hard to take this wedding seriously.

ElleB87

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[QUOTE]Where do couples get the idea that their weddings are so awesome and people will want to go so badly that they would pay?  <strong>Are they confusing gifts with paying admission</strong>?
Posted by HandBanana[/QUOTE]

Haha, no. They're still expecting lots and lots of gifts.

ElleB87

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[QUOTE]Wow.  Just wow. There is NO way I would go to that.  I thought the cash bar that my SIL suggested was horrifying (ok it still is) but not as bad in comparison to a tiered reception with admission. And, I have to ask...<strong>admission pays for what exactly</strong>?  A pretzel???
Posted by lauraanne9[/QUOTE]

The honour of attending their wedding...accept the people invited to the social aren't actually invited to the ceremony.  It also pays for the food poisoning you get from the nasty "food"

lahlah12bk

Good golly. Where did your ILs meet these bizarre people? They can't possibly have many friends or someone would talk them out of this. My own (very long island) mother would "die a thousand deaths" out of embarassment if anyone suggested this to her. Who cares if it's what the couple wants?

lahlah12bk

Good golly. Where did your ILs meet these bizarre people? They can't possibly have many friends or someone would talk them out of this. My own (very long island) mother would "die a thousand deaths" out of embarassment if anyone suggested this to her. Who cares if it's what the couple wants?

ElleB87

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[QUOTE]Good golly. Where did your ILs meet these bizarre people? They can't possibly have many friends or someone would talk them out of this. My own (very long island) mother would "die a thousand deaths" out of embarassment if anyone suggested this to her. Who cares if it's what the couple wants?
Posted by lahlah12bk[/QUOTE]

I have no idea where they met these clowns and I know a lot of people are pretty disgusted with this whole charade. I have no idea why MIL is even going along with this junk, she's normally a "kick azz and take names" kind of lady with this stuff.  I think MIL is pretty embarrassed. She's in the wedding party and I think she's getting a lot of "wtf is this?!" calls.

lahlah12bk

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wow...here's a doozy... : I have no idea where they met these clowns and I know a lot of people are pretty disgusted with this whole charade. I have no idea why MIL is even going along with this junk, she's normally a "kick azz and take names" kind of lady with this stuff.  I think MIL is pretty embarrassed. She's in the wedding party and I think she's getting a lot of "wtf is this?!" calls.
Posted by ElleB87[/QUOTE]



Alwww. See, now I feel bad for the ILs. Maybe they're more kind-hearted than than me. The bright side is your ILs are probabaly thanking their lucky stars that you'd never embarrass them like this.

rajahmd

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[QUOTE]Rachel, what does your SN mean? I keep reading it as Rachel BMFD which makes me think of big motherfucking deal.  Which is awesome. 
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

I kinda wish it was, lol.  That's funny.  It's my current last initial, my future last inital (when I take my fiance's last name, to help me get used to seeing it), and MD because I'm in med school.  I like to make screennames that will be relevant for years to come, so I tend to stick to generic letters and whatnot.  I'm not the most creative person when it comes to screennames, lol.

ootmother2

I've been on the knot far too long because  situations like this just make me laugh and shake my head

Coghoot12

After planning a wedding and spending a lot of time lurking on TK I'm much more conscious of etiquette lapses that I probably would not have noticed before.

But sweet tapdancing christ that's just a Hindenberg of wrong.

I get why you would avoid it but I almost want you to go so you can enjoy the shiitshow. 

RebeccaB88

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[QUOTE] But sweet tapdancing christ that's just a Hindenberg of wrong. Posted by Coghoot12[/QUOTE]

I think I love this sentence.

willywally5

Dang. It's like they took an etiquette book and did everything exactly opposite of what was recommended. 

Those better be some mighty fine pretzels for $15 a head. 

Mrw218

Oooooh I got a good one. I know a couple that made a registry where they put all different cash amts. that I can deal with but worse is they assigned numbers of each dollar amt you could get like on a regular reg you say 3 napkins well this was like 3 ten dollar gifts. So it stands to reason that if 10 dollars is taken you go up to the next tier. Awesome.....