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Night_Sprite

So I got a bowl from etsy that cost too much money for what it is, but I loved it.  It is a ceramic bowl that says "To Have and To Hold."  I want the ring bearer to carry it.  (If you want to see it, it is under details in my bio.)  

Anyway, my mom insisted on buying a ring bearer pillow today because it is not appropriate for the ring bearer to carry a little ceramic bowl.  I think he can hold it for 5 minutes without dropping it or having other problems.  

Is my bowl dumb or should my mom get over it?

ricksang

Get over it, your mom that is.

jasmineh7777

If you want to use it, use it. Just be prepared for the possibility of it getting broken.
IMO, you've already spent the money so go for it.  When will you have another chance to use it?

sucrets4

The bowl sounds cute!  She should get over it.

Maybe you can let the RB hold the pillow in some formal pics so that mom feels better?

crfische

Can I vote both or is that unacceptable?

But I'm pretty sure your ring bearer can handle it. It's a cute bowl.

nda_roxybabe

I prefer the bowls. How old is RB?

mags0607

I like the bowl idea. You did already spend the money on it, and you like it, so go for it. Bring the pillow though, just in case he drops the bowl or something before it goes down the aisle.

ExpatPumpkin

I think the bowl's cute.  It looks like there are a couple of holes at the top...  Why don't you thread some ribbon through the holes, tie on the rings, and let them rest in the center of the bowl? 

Oh, and let him carry the real rings.  It just seems silly to call the little guys ring bearers and then give them fake rings.  What could really go wrong in 30 seconds?

Night_Sprite

The ring bearer is 5, but really well behaved and mellow.

This detail business of weddings is a pain.

Night_Sprite

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[QUOTE]I think the bowl's cute.  It looks like there are a couple of holes at the top...  Why don't you thread some ribbon through the holes, tie on the rings, and let them rest in the center of the bowl?  Oh, and let him carry the real rings.  It just seems silly to call the little guys ring bearers and then give them fake rings.  What could really go wrong in 30 seconds?
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

<div>The idea is to put the rings on the top, Expat.</div>

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]  What could really go wrong in 30 seconds?
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

famous last words?

nda_roxybabe

Night- apparently TK can't decide who posted this. Everytime I refresh there is a new name as the poster.

Night_Sprite

Well, Roxy.  It would be nice if I weren't the neurotic person being eaten by her wedding, but I am.

PDXMartha

I pretty much vote for any option that is NOT pillows.  The bowl is a really cute idea, too! (bonus).  I don't get the point of a little boy walking around with a tiny pillow with expensive and tiny jewelry.

is the kid going to carry the real rings?
If you trust him with small, super expensive objects that are the lifelong outward symbol of your marriage, surely he can handle a small ceramic bowl!

My "ring bearers" will not be carrying our rings (I don't trust a less-than-3 yr old or a 5 yr old with items so important.  Sorry.  Quite honestly, I'm nervous enough to let the best man handle (if he shows up drunk, I won't be shocked).  But if he lost them, he at least has the income to replace them.)  I refer to all the kids (we have 7 in the wedding, ranging from 14 months to 9.5 years) as flower children.  Unfortunately the boys won't have flowers though...hmmm....

Back to you - I like the bowl!  Details like that should be up to you and your fiance.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE] I refer to all the kids (we have 7 in the wedding, ranging from 14 months to 9.5 years) as flower children.  Unfortunately the boys won't have flowers though...hmmm....
Posted by PDXMartha[/QUOTE]

7 kids?  Are they planting you a garden?

ExpatPumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : The idea is to put the rings on the top, Expat.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

<div>Are you going to tie them there?  So that you can still see the words in the bowl?  I think that's a really good idea.</div><div>
</div><div>And about letting little kids handle the rings, I really don't see what could go wrong if they're handed the ring pillow/bowl right before walking down the aisle...  They'll be in sight of everyone in the church while they're walking and then they'll pass the rings to someone when they reach the front.  Seriously, what could go wrong?</div><div>
</div><div>I don't recommend that you put the rings in the kid's care at the rehearsal dinner and expect him to bring them to the church in the morning, however ,)</div><div>
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Night_Sprite

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[QUOTE]I don't recommend that you put the rings in the kid's care at the rehearsal dinner and expect him to bring them to the church in the morning, however ,)
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, there goes my ring care plans.  Damn.</div>

ExpatPumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Well, there goes my ring care plans.  Damn.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah, sorry for bursting your bubble ;)</div><div>
</div><div>Anyway, I think the bowl is really sweet.  And I'm sure that once your mom sees the rings tied on there she'll think so too.

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SarahnVinny

Sucrets! I just spit green tea out of my mouth from laughing at your last comment. Thanks for that. haha

ohwhynot

The bowl sounds adorable, and I agree about letting them carry the real rings.  When my son was a ring bearer at his cousin's wedding, he took it all so seriously - he felt very important (he was 5).  He carried the real rings in a little treasure chest.

A year later, he was ring bearer for his aunt and was prepared to dispatch his duties faithfully.   He was quite disappointed when he found out that it was all a sham this time around - the rings were fakes.   

missy68

Night, you know I'm all about the bowl - you know what my ring "holder/bearer" carried. And yes, he was responsible for the real rings in an organza bag.

He sat with his parents, but that was only because we did not have a wedding party at all. If we had, I still would have let him carry the real ones.

baby green bird

i really like your idea. your mom is just old-school about this. she'll get over it

sgervais88

The bowl is adorable! I think you should use the real rings too. Kids don't care so much about the whole wedding thing at that age, but they do when they feel important (by carrying the real rings). It would be cute