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Invitation question

Invitations for my wedding went out last week to everyone on the list I gave my mom.  I didn't originally want to invite anyone from work because I didn't want to have to worry about looking like a bad guy for inviting only one or two people (I'm casual acquaintances with most everyone except for a couple of people.)  The only person I would have invited is one of my managers. But because of conflict of interest, I didn't.  I didn't want it to look like I was trying to suck up to her.  

Well, last week I found out that she put in her two weeks and won't be there past this Sunday (she's gonna be on vacation next week).  I put in my two weeks as well this week on Monday (already planned before I found out she was leaving).  No one at work knows that I sent my invitiations out and it is still within the 6-8 week window for getting them out.  I haven't told anyone because I don't wan't people asking if they are getting one.  

I would like to go ahead and extend an invitation to the wedding to her and her husband.  She and I became really close while I was working there, and I would like to have her there.  I don't have any actual physical invitations (my mom has them all).  I should have included her on the original list, but I didn't and now after finding out she is leaving, I realized how much I want her there.  

Would this be considered rude or B-listing?  Also, since I don't have a physical invitation in hand, how would be best to give her the information?  My last day with her is Thursday (I have off this weekend).  I have her phone number so I could get an address if I needed to to send it to her.    

Thank you!  And this is gonna be a P&R because I have to get ready for work, but I'll be checking responses later.  
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Re: Invitation question

  • I wouldn't consider it B listing. Did your invite just go out recently? You still have about 7 weeks til the wedding, which is in the time frame of sending out invitations.

    Could you talk to her today or tomorrow privately and assk for her home address because you are sending her a wedding invitation this week? Then call your mom and give her that address so she can send a physical invitation?


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  • I wouldn't consider it B listing. You still have about 7 weeks til the wedding, which is in the invitation time frame.

    Could you talk to her today or tomorrow privately and ask for her home address because you are sending her a wedding invitation? Then call your mom and give her the address so she can send a physical invite?


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  • Get an invitation from your mom and mail one or have your mother mail it right away.  Don't invite her verbally.

    You're still within the acceptable window of time for sending out invitations, so you're fine to add her.  I wouldn't consider this B-listing.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-question-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:27b5da4c-cd5d-4745-8df1-478c08302b17Post:c0a7fca2-f3df-482e-8c6c-2cfeec49a82e">Re: Invitation question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wouldn't consider it B listing. You still have about 7 weeks til the wedding, which is in the invitation time frame. Could you talk to her today or tomorrow privately and ask for her home address because you are sending her a wedding invitation? Then call your mom and give her the address so she can send a physical invite?
    Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this. I typed the same thing but the internet ate it. 
  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    If you're still within the window it's fine to invite her. If you are going to do this though you should ask your CW for her address, send it to your mom and have her send out an invitation ASAP. Otherwise I think she will possibly feel B-listed.
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  • pkontkpkontk member
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    I wouldn't consider that b-listing.  Its not like you waited for people to respond 'no' before you invited her, you just didn't want to mix business with pleasure, which I totally understand.  I think you're ok inviting her, and keeping it on the DL at work.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-question-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:27b5da4c-cd5d-4745-8df1-478c08302b17Post:8e62596d-1d15-41ca-ab18-123d3f452828">Re: Invitation question</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation question : Ditto this. I typed the same thing but the internet ate it. 
    Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

    Every time I type a response, it says there was an error and it doesn't show up, and then I have to type it all out again. Annoying.


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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-question-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:27b5da4c-cd5d-4745-8df1-478c08302b17Post:995d63f9-8201-4275-bcb5-53beb0a3f44f">Re: Invitation question</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation question : Every time I type a response, it says there was an error and it doesn't show up, and then I have to type it all out again. Annoying.
    Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

    Normally I C&P everything before hitting submit in case it gets eaten. I think it's also partly the internet here too because it will just sit there on a blank screen and not continue loading.  So annoying.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-question-32?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:27b5da4c-cd5d-4745-8df1-478c08302b17Post:dfbe867a-8f47-457e-8932-edc75a58c26c">Re: Invitation question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Get an invitation from your mom and mail one or have your mother mail it right away.  Don't invite her verbally. You're still within the acceptable window of time for sending out invitations, so you're fine to add her.  I wouldn't consider this B-listing.
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    Agree with muni. Don't do the verbal invite thing at all.
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  • agree with PPs. don't think that's b-listing at all. Ask her for her address and send her an invite.
    09.08.12
  • Thanks guys!  I am seeing my parents on Sunday, so I will be able to get an invitation from my mom then.  When I see my manager on Thursday, I'll get her address.  
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