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A few invite questions

I thought I had this invite stuff all down pat, but apparently not.  I don't even know if there's proper etiquette for all of these things, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.

First, when writing the return address on the outer envelope, do I put just our address (123 Somewhere Street) or name and address?  If I put name and address, whose name do I put?  FI and I live together, so would I say Smith/Jones 123 Apple Street or just one of our names?  

Second, is it ok to use the computer to print our address on the RSVP envelopes, or should I handwrite those, as well?  And do I put just our address on there, or do I put names and our address?  

And as for couples living together, should both names be listed on the outer envelope, or just So-and-so and Guest?  For example, if I'm inviting my friend Jill and her boyfriend John, I would address it to Jill LastName and John LastName, not just Jill LastName and Guest.

Thank you!!  
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Re: A few invite questions

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:28826471-e958-439f-9a18-cdd05ed79b02Post:36a76604-ede7-47a2-8d6e-c6913cb7ab1a">A few invite questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]I thought I had this invite stuff all down pat, but apparently not.  I don't even know if there's proper etiquette for all of these things, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. First, when writing the return address on the outer envelope, do I put just our address (123 Somewhere Street) or name and address?  If I put name and address, whose name do I put?  
    <strong>You can put
    Smith/Jones Wedding 
    124 Main Street
    Somewhere, CA 90210

    </strong>FI and I live together, so would I say Smith/Jones 123 Apple Street or just one of our names?  

    Second, is it ok to use the computer to print our address on the RSVP envelopes, or should I handwrite those, as well? 
    <strong>I think that printing the RSVP envelope is fine.  It's preferable to hand address the main envelope.  However the RSVP envelope is usually printed.
    </strong>
    And do I put just our address on there, or do I put names and our address?   And as for couples living together, should both names be listed on the outer envelope, or just So-and-so and Guest?  For example, if I'm inviting my friend Jill and her boyfriend John, I would address it to Jill LastName and John LastName, not just Jill LastName and Guest. Thank you!!  
    <strong>If they live together it would be
    Jill Smith
    John Jones
    124 Main Street
    Somewhere, CA 90210.
    </strong>
    <strong>Separate lines for people who are not married. Also, do not include an "&" (which also implies marriage).</strong>

    Posted by noelwellin[/QUOTE]
  • #1  H and I also lived together before our wedding. I simply put both of our first names and then our address

    #2  The addresses should be hand written if at all possible. But I think the next *best* thing would be to send them through the printer

    #3  If you know the guests first and last name, definitely use that. If you don't know their name, try to find out and use "and Guest" as a last resort.
  • Thanks, ladies!  I'm definitely going to handwrite the outer envelope, I just wasn't sure about the response card envelope.  I didn't even think about not using "&," so thanks for that!  

    MissySue, did you do the same address format for your response card envelope or just the return address on the outer?

    Thank you!
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  • Oh, and what about guests who don't have a significant other but are getting a +1?  It's only the WP that's getting +1s, so should I just word-of-mouth it and tell them to RSVP for 2?
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28826471-e958-439f-9a18-cdd05ed79b02Post:3b82ce5a-432c-4cba-b855-27b29116c704">Re: A few invite questions</a>:
    [QUOTE] MissySue, did you do the same address format for your response card envelope or just the return address on the outer? Thank you!
    Posted by noelwellin[/QUOTE]

    Our response cards/rsvp's actually went to the IL's so we used their address. Yeah, I know people must of thought we didn't do something correctly when they received the invites. But my IL's were in town where our wedding was and offered to keep track of things for us since they were also doing any errands or follow-ups that we needed them to do.

    The return address on the outer we used our address.

    Sorry, but I don't think I read your thread correctly. My bad.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28826471-e958-439f-9a18-cdd05ed79b02Post:73590ee3-1a98-4cc8-9ea7-19645ffa38e8">Re: A few invite questions</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh, and what about guests who don't have a significant other but are getting a +1?  It's only the WP that's getting +1s, so should I just word-of-mouth it and tell them to RSVP for 2?
    Posted by noelwellin[/QUOTE]

    If they aren't currently dating anyone, then it is fine to put "and Guest." That way the have the option of bringing a friend or date or whatever if they wish to.
  • I don't like the look of separating the unmarried couples who live in sin...lol 

    I would just put Jill Smith & John Jones. 

    Granted, you're on the Etiquette board, so I guess you want the "proper" advice... 



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