thank you cards

ninamyspace

What wording do you use for a thank you card for someone that gifted you money/a gift card?

Meegles4

Dear Jane,

Thank you so much for your gift of money. Husband and I are saving for a house/purchasing a few items for our new home and this will really help. It was wonderful seeing you at the wedding and spending some time together. I hope we run into each other again soon!

Love,
Nina

Obviously, if you have something more personal to say to the person you can end the note with that instead of what I wrote.

Ajuliana

I long ago perfected (at least IMO) this wording.  "Thank you so much for your generous gift."  

Anything else sounds tacky.  I like to also add a note of ways it may be used, such as "It will be so helpful as we decorate our new home!"

ninamyspace

Also, apparently the best mans wife in the wedding found it very offensive  that I didn't have a registry, so to "make a point" they specifically gifted my fiance/now husband,nothing addressed to me.

Should they still receive a thank you card, and if so, should it just be addressed from my husband?

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]Also, apparently the best mans wife in the wedding found it very offensive   that I didn't have a registry, so to "make a point" they specifically gifted my fiance/now husband,nothing addressed to me. Should they still receive a thank you card, and if so, should it just be addressed from my husband?
Posted by ninamyspace[/QUOTE]

Huh? So did they not get you anything at all or did they get your H something but not you?

If it's the first one, you don't send a note

If it's the second, that's pretty stupid, but your H can write the note and send it and sign just his name if it really was just for him. Or sign both of your names just to prove to the chick you're actually a unit now and what's his is yours. How lame.

ETA: I think I get it after several re-readings. They gave a gift, but addressed it only to your H? Have him write the note. He can still sign it from both of you if he wants. Frankly, my H wrote all of the TY notes for his friends and family and I did my side.

ninamyspace

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: thank you cards : Huh? So did they not get you anything at all or did they get your H something but not you? If it's the first one, you don't send a note If it's the second, that's pretty stupid, but your H can write the note and send it and sign just his name if it really was just for him. Or sign both of your names just to prove to the chick you're actually a unit now and what's his is yours. How lame. ETA: I think I get it after several re-readings. They gave a gift, but addressed it only to your H? Have him write the note. He can still sign it from both of you if he wants. Frankly, my H wrote all of the TY notes for his friends and family and I did my side.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>The best man handed my husband a cigar box with cigars before our wedding started, there was no other gift from them nor a card, so would that be considered a "wedding" gift, or just a little something the best man got specifically for him? </div><div>
</div><div>In my opinion, a wedding gift is suppose to be something for the couple to share, not just the individual, but i am not an expert on this.

</div><div>Just a little bitter about them doing something like that just to be jerks.</div>

Meegles4

Regardless of what it's called, have your H write a TY note to him.

For what it's worth, our BM didn't get us a "real" wedding gift. He did stock our limo bus with alcohol for the WP to have, and we consider that a gift, but otherwise he didn't.

ninamyspace

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[QUOTE]Regardless of what it's called, have your H write a TY note to him. For what it's worth, our BM didn't get us a "real" wedding gift. He did stock our limo bus with alcohol for the WP to have, and we consider that a gift, but otherwise he didn't.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I don't really care, I wasn't really expecting anything from them, but I had no idea that I apparently offended some people by not registering. *shrug*</div>

courtski2004

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: thank you cards : <strong>The best man handed my husband a cigar box with cigars before our wedding started, there was no other gift from them nor a card, so would that be considered a "wedding" gift, or just a little something the best man got specifically for him?</strong>  In my opinion, a wedding gift is suppose to be something for the couple to share, not just the individual, but i am not an expert on this. <strong>Just a little bitter about them doing something like that just to be jerks.
</strong>Posted by ninamyspace[/QUOTE]

It was a gift, no? Regardless of the occasion, thank you notes should promptly follow a gift of any kind. Since it was given to your H, it is his TY to write.

I doubt they were trying to be jerks. We had 2 WP members give us a gift, and I didn't feel slighted at all by those who didn't give us anything other than a card-I didn't even expect anything. I don't think there is anything wrong with a GM giving a special gift only to the groom since they are obviously very close and I wouldn't take it as a slam to me if it happened.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

You can have your husband do that note. Or any other note. Technically, only the person writing the note should sign it and say, "Jane and I were delighted by your thoughtfulness..." etc, within the body of the note.

For the cigars he can write the note thanking them and then say, "we were both so happy you were able to spend our special day with us."

How odd that she decided to punish you but your husband got a pass. I didn't really want to register, but my husband made me! I assume it wasn't all YOUR decision to not register - your husband had to agree to it.

ninamyspace

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: thank you cards : It was a gift, no? Regardless of the occasion, thank you notes should promptly follow a gift of any kind. Since it was given to your H, it is his TY to write. <strong>I doubt they were trying to be jerks.</strong> We had 2 WP members give us a gift, and I didn't feel slighted at all by those who didn't give us anything other than a card-I didn't even expect anything. I don't think there is anything wrong with a GM giving a special gift only to the groom since they are obviously very close and <strong>I wouldn't take it as a slam to me if it happened.</strong>
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]

<div>Eh, just what my husband told me, I didn't assume.</div>