Bridal Shower Gift and Wedding Gift?

jemali_2003

I can't find any old posts about this question, but I know there are some on here. 

First of all I know that giving gifts is not expected, but I just had a wondering.   If you attended a bridal shower and gave a gift to the bride do you also bring a gift to the wedding too?  Would you bring a gift to the wedding and not one to the shower?  I have been to a few bridal showers lately, bought gifts off the registries, but not sure if I should bring a gift to the wedding too.  

Please let me know what you have done or would do.  

heyimbren

You're never required to give a gift, but I always give a shower gift if I'm invited and can attend, and a wedding gift as well.

lyndausvi

Assuming I was invited to both, I've always given a gift for both the shower and wedding.

gailpete

Since the purpose of a shower is to give gifts, you should always take a gift (unless you are invited to multiple showers for the same couple, then you only need to give one).

You are not required to give a wedding gift, but it is pretty much expected, if you attend the wedding.

tenofcups4me

I always give a gift for the shower and for the wedding. In my crowd, the shower gift is from the registry and the wedding gift is money.

SarahPLiz

If i go to a shower, I give my gift there, and bring a card to the wedding. In my mind, the shower is celebrating the wedding, so I am giving one gift celebrating a singular event (beginning of a marriage). I see the shower as a pre-party so you can collect and pay attention to the gift and giver, instead of having them all stacked up by your guest book. 

However, I think more people on here would disagree with me than concur. 

mysticl

I give a gift for both. 

banana468

I give a gift for both.

Generally DH and I have a "wedding total".  When I'm invited to the shower, I'll spend X of the total and the wedding gift cost covers the rest of what we intended to spend.

andy71781

Both.

[Deleted User]

Definitely both.

M&R7111

In my family it is customary to give a gift at the shower off the registry and then money at the wedding.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Gift for the shower, money or gift card for the wedding. 

I would not go to a shower and not bring a gift, since that's the point of a shower. I also wouldn't go to a wedding without a little something, so if you can't swing both, I'd decline the shower. 

MommyMarta08

I can't imagine showing up to a party where I am being provided a meal and alcohol and not giving a gift. You definitely should give both. If you can't afford to, decline an invite. I'd be embarrassed to show up to one of the events empty handed.  The registry is typically for shower gifts and money is given at the wedding (though I heard in some areas of the country people give gifts at a wedding- I've only seen this once) 

lexandfab

I do both. I would feel strange showing up to either without a gift.

skippylouwho

Two events, two gifts.

kimp67

Yep, both get gifts.

flamingtwig72

Both, but I do want to point out that if you are giving a registry gift for the wedding, it's most polite to ship it to the address on the registry ahead of time to save the couple the hassle of having to transport it after the reception.

quotequeen

This varies by circle, but what you ought to do is decide on a total amount you want to spend on the gift, and then divide it between the shower and wedding gifts (generally with more going toward the wedding gift).  For these couple, if you have already spent your full gift budget on the shower gift, you could just give a card or a small token gift at the wedding.

srkropf

I would do both, but I probably wouldn't do two big gifts, but two smaller gifts-- or one big gift.

JadziaDax

I give a gift at the shower and money at the wedding. Even if it's just a small gift at the wedding, I would give something. A friend of mine would get these really inexpensive photo albums and give them as wedding gifts.

TheCranberry

One cool shower gift I've seen is giving a bottle of wine with a nice card explaining that it's your favorite to drink at such and such occaision and suggesting that they drink it on that occaision.  For instance, a lady at one shower gave a bottle of spiced wine and the card said she loves to drink it at Christmas and then had something cute in the card about how they can drink it during their first Christmas as a married couple.  Wine can be an inexpensive and thoughtful gift.

SparrowSong

I give a smaller gift at the shower ($25 or so) and a larger gift for the wedding ($50-$100 usually). The wedding gift is delivered before the wedding, not brought to the reception.

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Gift at both.