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Gift Etiquette

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I recently had my wedding and noticed that I did not receive a card from a friend on mine. I don't mind not getting a gift, but I can't see that she would not at least give a card. Do I bring it up? I don't want to be rude to ask her about it, but I don't want to be rude by not thanking her if she did bring one.
What do I do?
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  • GretchenLaRouxGretchenLaRoux
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    No, don't bring it up. She might've forgotten it at home and is sending it to you, or she might've decided to just not get you one, but either way, you can thank her for sharing the day with you, and if she did send you something and you don't mention it, she'll likely bring it up herself.
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  • andrea2473andrea2473 member
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    Do not do anything.  She might still have something coming for you, she might not.  And if it did get lost, she'll inquire about whether or not you got it when she doesn't get a thank you card.  You do NOT bring it up ever.   
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    It's been FIVE DAYS since you got married.   Your guests have plenty of time to give you a wedding gift.

    Relax.  You just got married - enjoy each other!
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  • fluttaby32fluttaby32 member
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    there are SOO many threads about this!
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  • dumdumfroggiedumdumfroggie
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    Please don't bring it up.
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  • fluttaby32fluttaby32 member
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    you beat me to it :)
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  • rebarobert2012rebarobert2012
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    There is no need to bring it up.  It is possible that the gift simply has not gotten to you yet.
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  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I haven't sent my friend her gift yet -- I was going to give her cash on the wedding day, but I was a BM and things got hectic and I straight forgot.

    Actually, thanks for the reminder; I really need to do that ...

    My bigger point is that people have lives; give her time.
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  • sprtychick10sprtychick10
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:8bcd258e-48fb-4fed-967c-1b739c432e9c">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's been FIVE DAYS since you got married.   Your guests have plenty of time to give you a wedding gift. Relax.  You just got married - enjoy each other!
    Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

    agree

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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:65a2aabf-ee4e-4b63-9b5d-f77457cbcc42">Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I recently had my wedding and noticed that I did not receive a card from a friend on mine. I don't mind not getting a gift, but I can't see that she would not at least give a card. Do I bring it up? I don't want to be rude to ask her about it, but I don't want to be rude by not thanking her if she did bring one. <strong>What do I do?</strong>
    Posted by shantillee[/QUOTE]

    Sue her.  That's the answer to everything. Duh.
     
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  • andrea2473andrea2473 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:662e54dd-0df1-4c17-b178-967af7a391d8">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just noticed joined date....
    Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

    MUD? I was kind of thinking that from the beginning but I gave the advice just in case...
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  • Megbo2012Megbo2012
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    Whoa, Edie/Chrissy totally missed that thread.  Completely blown up.

    OP Please worry about your new Husband and your lives together.  I agree that a card is a simple thing that I really appreciate, but getting upset over a piece of paper worth the equivalent of maybe $3 to me seems trivial. 
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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:cdcb6ede-f2ed-44a1-a9c1-f7c24e9aa57a">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gift Etiquette : What do you think it means?
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    It means either she only needed wedding etiquette help AFTER her wedding, or she's the 193558th troll to post something oh-so-original.  I'm going to go with the latter because if this is real, even asking this kind of questions shows she has needed etiquette help from the get-go.
     
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  • fluttaby32fluttaby32 member
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    my name is.....
    I agree, I think it it were a troll it'd be a little funnier, and muddier.

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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    It's all a giant conspiracy to get me up on my "friends/family are more important than gifts/cards" soap box - I'm sure of it. 
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:7ea6bc75-2a26-4947-992e-a75c61454fb4">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gift Etiquette : Oh FFS.  Is it "I can White Because I Didn't Get a Gift" Week?
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Edie, can I call you racist for this?  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:65a2aabf-ee4e-4b63-9b5d-f77457cbcc42">Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I recently had my wedding and noticed that I did not receive a card from a friend on mine. I don't mind not getting a gift, but I can't see that she would not at least give a card. Do I bring it up? I don't want to be rude to ask her about it, but I don't want to be rude by not thanking her if she did bring one. What do I do?
    Posted by shantillee[/QUOTE]


    My H's brother, wife and 6 kids gave us nothing for our wedding not even a card. it is what it is... some people just don't want to give gifts. Don't bring it up, but do send a thankyou saying "thanks for coming to the wedding"
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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:7ea6bc75-2a26-4947-992e-a75c61454fb4">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gift Etiquette : Oh FFS.  Is it "I can White Because I Didn't Get a Gift" Week?
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    Nope.  It's actually "I am an entitled brat, GIMME PRESENTS NOWWWWW!" week.
     
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  • Megbo2012Megbo2012
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:574924b6-c3df-4dc6-98c1-a374f57a7588">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gift Etiquette : Nope.  It's actually "I am an entitled brat, GIMME PRESENTS NOWWWWW!" week.
    Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

    <div>My FI hasn't even given me a Christmas gift yet! Hello!! It's December 1st! I should be getting at least one present each and every day UNTIL Christmas because that's the whole point!</div><div>
    </div><div>Ugh.</div>
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    So if you're hearing impaired and I'm half blind, does that mean we can call each other names without being any kind of "ist" at all?  :)
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  • Megbo2012Megbo2012
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:7da89925-bb17-40e3-8b57-aaa91d90fb11">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I better get at least 8 presents from H for Hanukkah if not more.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    <div>8 per day would really emphasize the importance of the number 8 I think!</div>
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  • Megbo2012Megbo2012
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:360b5445-b64b-4d0a-8941-98c5042e9450">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]Love the new picture Meg. I love 3OH!3.  They are awesome.  
    Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks! It's not too big? I was just trying it out to make sure it wasn't ginormous and it looked ok but on the cusp of annoying people.</div><div>
    </div><div>I also had a picture of me in Norway with a beautiful sunset in the background but I wanted a picture of both of us. :)</div>
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    I'm so out of it, music wise.  I'm going to have to look up these songs when I get home. 
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    I suppose I should start my own bitch thread because neither my parents or either of my sisters didn't get me a wedding gift!  Is my marriage invalid now?  Crap guys...GIVE ME PRESENTS SO MY MARRIAGE IS VALID!!!!!
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  • adktd2bootsadktd2boots member
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    My friend got married on Oct. 8.   We were running late for the wedding and forgot her card at the house.  I've yet to mail it because I think about it at times like right now when I'm not at home, and I don't have my checkbook with me to write her a check.  Am I a horrible person?  Well I guess so.  She can get over it though, and if she chooses not to- her loss!
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    I think it's still valid Jemmini, you just have to fire your family. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:09e8aa4a-a377-46d4-ae14-82c1ee1885b6">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's still valid Jemmini, you just have to fire your family. 
    Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]


    Sounds like a plan.  I mean, who cares that they are unemployed, or single parents?  No gifts means I disown you!!!  I want a present damnit!!!
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  • kinsey0628kinsey0628 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-etiquette-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:299ea240-3ffa-43ee-94fb-a30b238c83edPost:1b867d3a-9a9c-4deb-8c77-26bfc251c339">Re: Gift Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]These are getting really old. If this is a troll, how is this funny or entertaining?
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    My favorite troll was the Dong Flop troll... I still think about that sometimes and laugh
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  • shantilleeshantillee member
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    Thank you for the advice, but what does it matter what day I joined "The Knot"?
    Thanks
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