Vow Renewal

Knottie_22382385

I am looking at doing a vow renewal with  my husband. We will be married for 20 years! We married at the court house and only had a few family and friends attend. We were also only 18. We didn't have money for the big wedding and I'm wondering if it is in bad taste to do a vow renewal with some of the wedding traditions. I didn't get to dance with my dad. Maybe we can do a whole father/daughter dance with all guests? Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

FutureMrsMDJahnke

I have no issues with wedding traditions at legitimate vow renewal receptions. Especially something like a father/daughter dance, if that is what you want to do.

Kate61487

I think it might depend on which traditions.  For example, I would probably find a huge white poofy ball gown a little out of place, or any sort of 'giving away' phrasing in the ceremony.  But I think a father daughter dance would be nice.  Especially if you open it to other father/daughter pairs  I've seen that at a few weddings and thought it was really lovely.

CallaLily25

It definitely depends on which traditions. A father/daughter dance would be sweet, but a bouquet or garter toss would be out of place IMO. I think you could even get away with cutting the cake. Just keep it subtle and minimal so it doesn't seem like you're trying to "redo" your wedding.

AddieCake

Ditto Kate. And congrats on 20 years!

NOLAbridealmost

I think the white dress, bouquet, spot light dances, cutting the cake, etc. are all fine.

Bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and a wedding party would be out of place because they require time/money from those who are asked to participate and that just seems inappropriate if you're already married.

Congrats on 20 years! That's worth celebrating!

Knottie_22382385

Thanks everyone. The most important thing (reaffirming my love for my husband) is being able to dance with my dad, so I am happy that you all think it is ok. Best wishes for everyone!

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone. The most important thing (reaffirming my love for my husband) is being able to dance with my dad, so I am happy that you all think it is ok. Best wishes for everyone!
Posted by Blondieo78[/QUOTE]
I definitely think that a dance with your dad is one of those traditions I'd love to see at a vow renewal.
There are a few traditions I might side-eye at a vow renewal, like a garter/bouquet toss, but a father daughter dance is not one of them.

Peledreamsofrain

Congrats Blondie on your anniversary!  It sounds like it will be a classy and lovely event!

Fancypantsamy

I feel like things like spotlight dances are appropriate at this sort of vow renewal - it's nice that you get to celebrate your dad having seen you and your husband through 20 years of marriage. 

cmacch

Just ditto'ing everyone else. A father daughter dance would be fine in my opinion. Congrats on 20 years!