N.E.R., RSVP question

chattychiqa

I know not to try to "count" on a 30% regret rate...I'm prepared to pay for everyone invited, but was just curious...

Invites went in the mail last week, and I've already gotten a bunch of RSVP's yes, only a handful of no's, or people coming without a +1.  In your experience, did the no's come in last?  Or did you have to call and confirm the non-responders were no's, or....?

I'm bored and there's 5 more hours left in my shift.  Just wondering. 

crash2729

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[QUOTE]I know not to try to "count" on a 30% regret rate...I'm prepared to pay for everyone invited, but was just curious... Invites went in the mail last week, and I've already gotten a bunch of RSVP's yes, only a handful of no's, or people coming without a +1.  In your experience, did the no's come in last?  Or did you have to call and confirm the non-responders were no's, or....? I'm bored and there's 5 more hours left in my shift.  Just wondering.  :)
Posted by chattychiqa[/QUOTE]
I had to call 50% of my guest list just about. <div>Mostly they were "no" but there were a few yes's.</div>

raes19

We had to call about 1/3 of our guest list, and I would say they were split pretty evenly between yes and no.

Bonzo2011

We had to call about 20 couples, most of whom were "no" We had a big chunk of RSVPs come in at the beginning, then it trickled off until the weekend of the RSVP deadline whe we got a ton more.

Kate61487

Most of our follow-ups were "no" but it wasn't as big a portion of our guest list as some of PPs.  We got a pretty steady trickle of "nos" the whole time; some responded right away, others straggled, so I guess you never know. 

ETA:  We were right at the 30% decline rate though; 367 invited, 260 attended

ILoveToRobot

I think we're going to have a fairly high decline rate. We cut our list from 350 to 256. My mom and my sister swore up and down that just about everyone would come and they could only see maybe 10 people declining... well obviously they don't know Fi's family like I do we have 133 accepted, 32 declined and 90? is my math right with no response. I KNEW that we'd have at least 50 people decline but to me it's looking like we'll have many more than that... I think the 30% is just an average. I have heard 20% before but sometimes people get 100% or even 50%.

July2012bride

Of the people we had to follow up with (19 couples) only 2 said no.  We only have a 9% decline rate.

MrsGandthebeag

We invited 110 and got 80.  I'd say the no's came in first as people already had existing travel plans.  

Summer2011Bride

I wouldn't say most of our no's came in last. Honestly, H's relatives were AWFUL about returning their RSVPs on time and every single one of them came! I think it's just about who is good on returning RSVPs on time and who isn't. In my experience, a lot of the "no's" came in quite early because people knew they couldn't make it and let us know right away. A lot of his relatives I think *assumed* we knew they'd be there and didn't find it necessary to return them promptly.

abbitha7

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't say most of our no's came in last. Honestly, H's relatives were AWFUL about returning their RSVPs on time and every single one of them came! I think it's just about who is good on returning RSVPs on time and who isn't. In my experience, a lot of the "no's" came in quite early because people knew they couldn't make it and let us know right away. A lot of his relatives I think *assumed* we knew they'd be there and didn't find it necessary to return them promptly.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

We have a 25% decline rate, and we had to track down almost all of them. It was kind of frustrating, to be honest. It's not like we would have yelled at them for saying 'no.' Most of them knew right away that they wouldn't be able to make it. Maybe they didn't want to actually say no? I'm not sure.

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For the life of me, I will never understand why people can't simply check off "regretfully declines" and put the rsvp in the mail.  I really think it's rude of "guests" to just not bother mailing back the rsvp. I am NOT looking forward to hunting people down.
Thus far we have all "yes" but we are still waiting for about 50 more people with only a week & a half go for our rsvp deadline.
I know we should be understanding, but I think invited guests should be more considerate of the bride & groom. There is a reason we are asking for/need rsvp's!! Not just because we like getting a ton of mail!!