WWYD

angned

Just saw a little commercial here on theknot for Moissanite and wondered what people would do if they got a Moissanite or Apollo diamond.  Is this ok? Or tacky?

ricksang

I have no idea what those are? Off to google.

JK10910

What do you mean, what people would do?  Of course it's ok.  Why wouldn't it be?  Not everyone gets diamonds you know. 

laurenclaire1386

An engagement ring is an engagement ring because one calls it that. Doesn't matter what it's made of and I certainly don't like to pass judgment on anyone's e-ring choice, because it's an extremely personal one. Just because an e-ring isn't a diamond doesn't make it any less valid as an e-ring. So no, I don't find it tacky.

AmoroAgain

What is there to consider as tacky or not??

There is a big difference between a moissanite and an Apollo diamond.  Moissanite is clearly discernible as a non-diamond under a microscope.  Apollo, is not.  It's almost impossible to find any chemical differences.

SarahPLiz

Its about the symbolism and the meaning to you. I'd love it if FI hadn't spent a  ton of money on this diamond, because that would tell me he is frugal like I am..
but he's not and I love him anyway.

THere was a thread on the Just ENgaged board about this last week, I think..

angned

I guess I mean would anyone be upset it is not a "real" diamond.  I think if I knew I would be ok, but if you thought you had a diamond and it turned out to be a cz, wouldn't you be a little upset?

I have seen some of the moissanite in the stores and think they are really pretty.  And flawless!

tlv204

I mean if I'm being honest I'd be upset if I received a moissanite ring IF H told me it was  a real diamond, but if I knew what it was I'd be perfectly fine with it. However, I also think I'd rather have a different gem stone than moissanite, if it couldn't be a diamond, not sure why. Apparently I'm a snob, oh well. I wouldn't have minded a different gem stone at all though.

salt78

Well obviously I'd be super pissed. He only really loves you if he gets you a diamond. A really big one.

ohwhynot

Well, I got a lovely pearl ring.  It is perfect for me, and I couldn't have picked anything more beautiful for myself.  What was I supposed to do, throw it in fi's face and huff "What?  I'm not good enough for a diamond?  Begone!" 

Or did you mean how would you feel if your fi lied and tried to tell you that a fake was a real diamond?

ETA:  I see you clarified in a later post.  If my fi felt the need/desire to deceive me about the ring he proposed with, I'd think we had much bigger issues to sort out.

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wwyd-21?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a13dbe3-cad8-4c9d-bf5f-947b92697415Post:c6edd217-8ec7-465b-8ecb-33aa049210c7">Re: WWYD</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I mean would anyone be upset it is not a "real" diamond.  I think if I knew I would be ok, but if you thought you had a diamond and it turned out to be a cz, wouldn't you be a little upset? I have seen some of the moissanite in the stores and think they are really pretty.  And flawless!
Posted by angned[/QUOTE]

I'll see if I can lay this out a little differently for you:

1) CZ is not moissanite, nor is it the same as an Apollo.
2) If a guy gives a girl a CZ without telling her, they have bigger problems.

3) I'm pretty sure you're a troll. 

angned

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[QUOTE]Well, I got a lovely pearl ring.  It is perfect for me, and I couldn't have picked anything more beautiful for myself.  What was I supposed to do, throw it in fi's face and huff "What?  I'm not good enough for a diamond?  Begone!"  Or did you mean how would you feel if your fi lied and tried to tell you that a fake was a real diamond? ETA:  I see you clarified in a later post.  If my fi felt the need/desire to deceive me about the ring he proposed with, I'd think we had much bigger issues to sort out.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]


I love pearls!  Yeah, I guess I should have clarified earlier.  And maybe not so much "lied" and said 'hey baby I got you a big ole diamond" that was fake, but just didn't say anything.  (which in the minds of some is still lying)

I had a student last year who came to school with a "diamond" ring.  I looked at it and told her it was fake.  She said "nuh uh- it's real!" I told her to look at it and tried to teach her a little.  She said her boyfriend would never lie to her and told her it was a diamond.  She was 15 and he was 19, fresh outta jail.  could the guy REALLY afford a diamond unless he stole it?

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wwyd-21?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a13dbe3-cad8-4c9d-bf5f-947b92697415Post:7bda1665-27fc-4374-99e7-9273b034bca3">Re: WWYD</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WWYD :  I had a student last year who came to school with a "diamond" ring.  I looked at it and told her it was fake.  She said "nuh uh- it's real!" I told her to look at it and tried to teach her a little.  She said her boyfriend would never lie to her and told her it was a diamond.  She was 15 and he was 19, fresh outta jail.  could the guy REALLY afford a diamond unless he stole it?
Posted by angned[/QUOTE]

*head palm*  Is it really any of your business?

TheSaltyPeanut

Angned just because you are 19 and fresh out of jail does not mean you don't have money.

crfische

Angned! oh my god! you were here a long time ago, right?!!!111 Oh my god! So glad you came back!1!!11

Wow, you really tell it like it is, LOL!!!11 I remember that about you, but who wouldn't??! LOL!!!!11

angned

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WWYD : *head palm*  Is it really any of your business?
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]


Before you judge my interaction with a student, maybe you should know some things about the situation.  This was a very poor town I taught in with very high amounts of gang activity.  I counseled the girl quite a bit about her relationship with her parents and with the boyfriend.  She needed someone to tell her that there was more to life than what she knew and that she could achieve much higher.

And as for the boyfriend, he had been in jail over a year and had not worked previously.  I know he did not have money to buy a carat sized diamond that he supposedly gave to her.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]Angned! oh my god! you were here a long time ago, right?!!!111 Oh my god! So glad you came back!1!!11 Wow, you really tell it like it is, LOL!!!11 I remember that about you, but who wouldn't??! LOL!!!!11
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Bahahaha. 

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WWYD : Before you judge my interaction with a student, maybe you should know some things about the situation.  This was a very poor town I taught in with very high amounts of gang activity.  I counseled the girl quite a bit about her relationship with her parents and with the boyfriend.  She needed someone to tell her that there was more to life than what she knew and that she could achieve much higher. And as for the boyfriend, he had been in jail over a year and had not worked previously.  I know he did not have money to buy a carat sized diamond that he supposedly gave to her.
Posted by angned[/QUOTE]

angned, before you get all twisted up, maybe you should give all the information.  You made it sound like you just walked up to her all like, "That ain't no real diamon ho! Your man lied to you!" 

Also, where in Montana is there a lot of gang activity, I would love to know.

angned

I lived I California then moved to Montana

thesuninherhead

Given that I don't have your eagle eye in spotting impostor diamonds, I'd probably be nonethewiser.