Ugh

sweetpea0911

My dad offered to pay for the reception and the ceremony (which not only was very generous, but took a load off of my mind!), which is lovely,  but meant I had to run all the places FI and I visited by him before booking (understandable, because he's paying for it).  So on the top three places we liked, I asked if they could "reserve" our date for a week til I could call them and let them know if we'd like to book it or not.  every place said yes.

I called my favorite place today, the one that my dad generously agreed to pay for (even though it wasn't the cheapest!) and they BOOKED OUT FROM UNDER ME.  Which I know, is their perogative, they are a business, but it makes me upset.

Just, blargh.  

tidetravel

Change your date.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]Change your date.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Yeah, can you pick a different date?  We picked our wedding date based on when the venue we wanted was available.

AdeleDazeem

Exactly what is the point of "reserving" with them if they are just going to book out from under you anyway?  Hmm...

I agree with Tide - change your date!

kate51485

That does suck.  But, you've got nearly a year and a half to go -- you have a lot of time to keep looking. 

sweetpea0911

I would totally change our date, but it's the only date our church is open and our reverend free...UGGGGH.

I know we've got time to keep looking, and I intend on doing that, it just upset me.  Bah.

kikibaby

We also chose our date based on venue availability.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]I would totally change our date, but it's the only date our church is open and our reverend free...UGGGGH. .
Posted by sweetpea0911[/QUOTE]

The only date that month?  What about the month before or month after?

I guess your flexibility just depends on how badly you wanted that venue.  It sucks that they didn't at least call you before booking it, but if you didn't put down a deposit or anything, then it's their prerogative to book it to someone who is willing to.

baystateapple

I don't know, I don't think I'd book with someone if they agreed to hold the date for a week and didn't follow through because someone else had the cash up front.  To me, that seems like a bad business policy. 

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]I would totally change our date, but it's the only date our church is open and our reverend free...UGGGGH. I know we've got time to keep looking, and I intend on doing that, it just upset me.  Bah.
Posted by sweetpea0911[/QUOTE]

Well, that does suck then.  There is NO other date that would work?

sweetpea0911

THere are a couple the month before or after, it's just now re-talking to everyone (family, church, reverend) about a new date OR finding a new venue.  I'm probably going with the latter, because everyone finally agreed on this date, but it just upsetting that they booked out from under me without at least calling and letting me know.

Apparently they booked the day after we were there, which was 5 days before I called them (this morning)...so I wouldn't have even SHOWED my dad the venue if they had called.  Oh well.  Just annoying and I felt the need to vent.

btrflykate1230

Super annoying!

tidetravel

If you're looking at SAT dates, what about the FRI or SUN of that weekend?

sweetpea0911

FI wasn't too keen on a Friday wedding since most of our guests are OOT, and our church has a NO SUNDAY rule.  Which is understandable because we've got, like, 3 services there on Sundays, and that doesn't include Sunday school or bible study or any of that stuff.

Sigh.  FI is done with class here in a few minutes and he's going to call me, so we'll talk then.  I don't know what our solution will be, but I'm sure we'll find one.

sweetpea0911

BTW, tide, your kid is super cute =]

danieliza1127

Well I'm sure you'll find another venue.  This just means that this particular one wasn't the one for you guys!  Something better will turn up!

swtasa

That really sucks I too would look at a different venue, to me agreeing to hold the date for just one week seems to me like the place could be a little bit of a pain with dealing with things.

We're putting our deposit down on the 9th for our venue if the food tastes good. If not we are gonna have to keep looking, but the place is so affordable I can't pass it up if the food is yummy

tidetravel

Well, boo.  That sucks.  But, like Dani said - it just wasn't meant to be.

And Thank you

Nebb

I thought you had 3 top choices you asked this of, and your favourite booked. Why cant you use one of theo ther 2?

abbygrace8

threaten to call the better business bureau of america on them- my friend stephanie does it daily and it works EVERY FREAKIN TIME.

sweetpea0911

We can use one of the other two, but I have to run them by my dad and stepmom again, and then hope that they haven't booked yet (FI called them this morning before class and said we'd gone with another venue).

FI said basically we can move the date by a month or we can go with one of the other two, but that he would prefer to go with one of the other two (his favorite one, of course) so that's what we'll do.  Dad and step-mom are going to go over the other two tonight and call me and let me know which one is acceptable.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]threaten to call the better business bureau of america on them- my friend stephanie does it daily and it works EVERY FREAKIN TIME.
Posted by abbygrace8[/QUOTE]

Yeah, except in this case she doesn't have a claim against them.  She didn't put down a deposit, so they didn't really do anything wrong in booking the date.  It sucks that she was told that they would hold it, but without a contract, she's got nothing.