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Invites, HELP!!!

I need advice. I am having a destination wedding. It is kind of like if you are able to come then the more the merrier. I'm just having a simple beach ceremony and then go out dinner at a nice restaurant in Hawaii. So how do I do invitations? Do I just tell friends and family the plan? Send out an updated save the date? Or should I make a guest list regardless and send out formal invitations? Help.....I am so lost.
There is no reception or anything like that, I mean Hawaii trumps any sort of caterer/reception.

Re: Invites, HELP!!!

  • Oh I was planning on paying for my guests dinner at the restaurant. That is a no-brainer. I just mean it isn't this huge reception, DJ, cake, first dance kind of deal. Just taking my guests to dinner after. So, I should send save the dates and formal invites to people I want to come. Ok I will have a sit down with my fiancé so we can put together a Hawaiian guest list. I am definitely not eloping, so that's out. Thanks for the input. I am trying to make it super informal so I was not really sure how to do invites.
  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    edited December 2011
    I defintely recommend that you send out invitations.   They don't have to be super-formal, they can fit the theme of your wedding.   You probably already have a pretty good idea of who will and will not be able to make it, but you should still send out invitations and get RSVPs so you know who wll be there.
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  • You can do some really fun invitations that are not formal at all.  My cousin got married in Jamaica and her invites looked like plane tickets.  H and I weren't able to go but my parents and brothers said it was a lot of fun.  

    But yes, you should send invitations and get RSVP's so you know who is coming and at the very least can make dinner reservations. 
  • Yeah, you're going to want concrete RSVPs, because you're going to want to have an idea how many people you need to accommodate for dinner, right?

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  • You should send actual invitations to avoid confusion over "an updated save the date."  Make a guest list anyway so you don't accidentally forget to invite someone important.  And know that it's hard to anticipate who'll travel.  I went to a destination wedding where there were over a hundred guests -- the couple was well loved, and a bunch of people decided that the destination sounded like a great vacation spot too.
  • oh wow thank you everyone!!! I am about to start some hardcore classes this year for my nursing degree and just do not have the time for an elaborate wedding. I appreciate all the input it helps a great deal!! thank you thank you thank you!! Merry Christmas!
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