Engagement Ring Etiquette

jmvalli

Hi!  I just joined because my BF and I plan on getting engaged soon.  He wants to pick out the ring himself, but said he would ask me for some input beforehand.  My question is how much input do I give him?   Both of us have been married before and I picked out my last engagment ring (stone style and setting) which I thought was beautiful.  Would it be tacky to request something similar?  At the very least I'd like the same style stone.  BTW, he knows what my other engagement ring looked like.

jmvalli

Thank you for all the suggestions.  When I selected my last ring I thought it was going to be forever, and picked out something I loved (princess cut in a simple platinum setting).  Of course, I wouldn't expect this ring to be exactly the same, but I still love the princess cut and I'd prefer a silver or platinum setting.  Would that be asking too much?   

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

There's a lot you can do with princess cut and platinum. I think you can get something that doesn't look exactly like your first ring (maybe not a solitaire this time) but that you still love.

PamandTroy

I told my FH what I DIDN"T want and let me go from there.  For example, I didn't want yellow gold and I didn't want a high (tall) setting.
When he popped the question, I was floored!  I would have never picked this ring out myself, but it's perfect.  And now he has full bragging rights to the fact that HE picked it out.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_engagement-ring-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a83e8b0-bc78-4458-b04d-1814530a7f2fPost:5fa1b721-002c-413d-8f8b-d1a1e7bdaf52">Re: Engagement Ring Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]We picked it out together more or less, although I didn't know the finalized setting until it was on my finger.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

Exactly this.

We picked the diamond together, and then I chose 2 settings that I liked, and then he went back later and had the diamond set in one of the settings, and I didn't know which until we got engaged a couple of months later.

rotella

My FI took me to about every ring store in town. I tried on all the ones I loved and he learned quickly I only like princess cut and each one I put on had diamonds in the band. The night he proposed I was shocked! We were on vacation. He bought my ring two months before hand however he still took me to jewelry stores to "trick" me, which it worked. The ring he gave me is gorgeous and it's the first one I tried on and fell in love with. So essentially, he made the decision on his own out of all the rings I tried on.

swtasa

It depends on what he's comfortable with. Honestly I'd just tell him the style you like and let him roll with it.

However I had different circumstance as my FI and I got the ring together, cuz I proposed to him, he felt he should get me a ring(I didn't think so but whatever).

LaurdaJean

Just tell him the type of band, type of diamond with the 4 C's in mind. With just that bit of info, he should be able to find something he knows you'll like. Maybe he'll even find something you like even better than what you had orginally thought of!