Thank you card awkwardness

abouttime909

How do I handle the following situation?

We received a couple of presents for our wedding but don't know who gave them to us.  Several people attended the wedding who likely gave us a gift, but we have no way of matching the attendees to the rogue gifts.  A few people also came to the wedding who likely were not able to afford a gift, but I do not know for sure.

How do I word the thank you cards?  I will obviously thank them all for coming to the wedding, and I want to acknowledge the gifts, but do I say generically "thank you for the lovely gift" to those I expect gave the mystery gifts?  What if I'm wrong and they didn't actually give those gifts?  I don't want to sound sarcastic.  And what if the people I think were not able to afford a gift were actually the givers of one of the mystery gifts and I fail to thank them?  I don't want to be rude.

Any input is appreciated!

hanson2B

To all those in question -- since you don't know who gave a gift and who didn't -- I would just try to write something really heartfelt, yet general, such as...

"Thank you so much for being a part of our special day.  Everything you contributed is greatly appreciated -- having you there to celebrate with us meant so much!"

It's vague, you see... if you gave a gift, you would take "everything you contributed" to include the gift, but if you didn't, you would just take it to mean your travel expenses, time spent, happy moments shared.

And if one of those people calls and says "do you use/like the gift we gave you?"  you could reply with something like, "Yes!  Where did you find that?"  And maybe that will help narrow it down, or perhaps they'll tell you all about it, and you'll know right away what gift it was!

abouttime909

hanson2B - I like that wording.  I just may have to go with that!  Thanks!

hanson2B

Glad I could help