Family offended that I don't want them to work the wedding.

Goldlie11

This is so strange.  A couple of family members offered to decorate my wedding venue.  I told them that I had it covered because I hired a DOC.  I want them to enjoy being a guest, not work the wedding.  I'm also planning on taking formals before the reception and invited them to come and take photos if they like.  

So, apparently, they think I don't trust them to do a good job.  I honestly wasn't thinking that way.  Should I just let the situation die down since the wedding is so far away?  I think it's silly to be offended that I want them to have a good time.  

PsyDet 2155

I would thank them for their kind offer, but explain that the DOC would be in charge of handling that and express how you want them to be included in the photos.

kimheartsscott

I would let it die down. My fiance's mother and aunt are royally pissed we aren't using the aunt to do our catering.  Even though our venue stipulates we have to use their caterer... Oh well, they will get over it.

angela72023

My Fi's family "insisted" they decorate the venue the day before...and since they have different...tastes...than i do, I am telling them to get there at 11, when I will be there at 8 with a couple of friends to get all of the items we are using out so none of their items (that I hate) end up on my tables...My FMIL is ticked that I'm not using red roses and so is currently not talking to me...

Just hang in there and find something else they can do to help...make up favors or pick up any items that aren't being delivered...small things make people feel important.

Katiemahler

let it lie. The more you talk about it, the bigger deal you make it sound to them.

eav2c

Because you still have quite awhile, I'd try not worry about it. As your wedding approaches, you might realize that you really do need their help. A lot can change in over a year If it does come up again, I'd say something to the effect of "Well, we are taking formal pictures inbetween and I'd really like for y'all to be apart of that. Instead of worrying about decorating, I'd really like to spend time with my family as you all are so important to me." Or--something similar.