We were just at dinner with my FMIL, who is paying for the RD. She asked about the guest list, and I said it was only parents, WP and guests. She said something about her mother, and I (uuuggghhhh) said, "no grandparents." To which she replied, "Oh, my mother will. be. there." After that I kind of stammered that of course she could invite anyone she wants.
When I said "no grandparents," I was thinking about inviting in "circles," and that I have 3 grandmothers, one who is OOT and will probably be bringing a guest. I was thinking about keeping the guest list as small as possible since FMIL is paying.
How it come out? Like I was telling her she couldn't invite her own mother to a dinner she is paying for.
I just called her to explain and apologize, and she said, "It's fine, don't worry about it." She said she understood that I was trying to keep the costs down for her and that she only said something because her mother had specifically said, "I'm coming to the RD right?"
I've spent so much time on here trying to make sure I follow all the proper etiquette and don't offend anyone and I go and say a stupid thing like that. *sigh*