Wedding Gift Thank You notes

Texasgal05

Our wedding is in Mid May. We just recieved our first wedding gift. Do I write the thank you note now on my "single girl" note cards and sign it with my single gal last name and his name or do I wait until after the wedding and send a thank you on our "married" thank you cards.
Thanks!

hoffse

Write it on your single girl stationery.  Sign your name using your current name.  Sign only YOUR name if you are the one writing it.  If he is the one writing it, he signs only HIS name (this is coming from a few threads down, in case your wondering).  After the wedding you can use married stationery and sign with your married name - but again, only the person who actually writes the note signs it.

Do yourself a favor and keep track of gifts received and thank you notes sent on the same page as your guest list.  I write thank yous the morning after we receive gifts, and then I mail them on the way to to work.  We are three weeks out, and we are still current.  I'm sure at some point I'll get behind but the more you do and mail now, the fewer you have to deal with after the wedding.

And just because this is my soapbox issue, I have to say - write them and get them mailed as quickly as possible after the wedding.  None of this waiting for the photo thank yous to come back nonesense.  It really shouldn't take more than a few weeks.  If you stay current up until 2-3 weeks before your actual wedding date you will be able to get the rest out very quickly after the wedding.

Texasgal05

Thank you! I am current with all of my thank yous and I am an avid thank you note writer (my shower thank yous went out the evening of the shower). I do not believe in waiting to write for thank yous and I expect that I will have all of them writen before our honeymoon (we leave 2 weeks after the wedding.) I just didn't know what the protocol was for wedding gifts that we get before the wedding.
Thank you for your help!

hoffse

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-gift-thank-you-notes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b2710d6-f238-442e-a53f-fb67495b3516Post:709d62ff-a864-43da-bfd5-6c3af152eb33">Re: Wedding Gift Thank You notes</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you! I am current with all of my thank yous and I am an avid thank you note writer (my shower thank yous went out the evening of the shower). I do not believe in waiting to write for thank yous and I expect that I will have all of them writen before our honeymoon (we leave 2 weeks after the wedding.) I just didn't know what the protocol was for wedding gifts that we get before the wedding. Thank you for your help!
Posted by Texasgal05[/QUOTE]

<div>So refreshing!  I have thank you note guilt, and ours will be mailed by the time we leave for Jamaica - we have 3 weeks between our wedding and honeymoon, and they will be out before then.  Just think how nice it will be to board the plane without 100 thank you notes waiting for you at home?</div><div>
</div><div>I've found that gifts have trickled in slowly - never more than 2 or 3 any given day thus far, so it's been very easy to stay current  But if I hadn't been doing them all this time there would have been about 50 to do after the wedding.  That would suck.  Once the 1-2 week deluge starts I'll probably get a little behind, but hopefully it stays pretty steady between now and then.</div>

Sierra524

This is probably a really dumb question, but I am really curious. What exactly is the difference between your "single girl" stationary & your "married girl" set? I have never even heard of this! Are they personalized with your name or something?

hoffse

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-gift-thank-you-notes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b2710d6-f238-442e-a53f-fb67495b3516Post:629d2277-5222-493e-b59e-e1c648dbdcd5">Re: Wedding Gift Thank You notes</a>:
[QUOTE]This is probably a really dumb question, but I am really curious. What exactly is the difference between your "single girl" stationary & your "married girl" set? I have never even heard of this! Are they personalized with your name or something?
Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]

<div>My single girl stationery has my personal monogram on the top - my married stationery has our joint monogram (I am not changing my personal stationery because my married monogram and my single monogram are the same - FI and I have almost identical last names).  Same idea as if we ordered stationery with "The Smiths" on the front of it - can't send it out until after we're married. </div><div>
</div><div>Lots of people on here hate monograms and personalized stationery - but it's something widely done in my circle.  We've already received calling cards with our married name on them - both joint and single ones for me individually - as wedding gifts.  Potentially a southern thing?  Not really sure. </div>

Texasgal05

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-gift-thank-you-notes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b2710d6-f238-442e-a53f-fb67495b3516Post:629d2277-5222-493e-b59e-e1c648dbdcd5">Re: Wedding Gift Thank You notes</a>:
[QUOTE]This is probably a really dumb question, but I am really curious. What exactly is the difference between your "single girl" stationary & your "married girl" set? I have never even heard of this! Are they personalized with your name or something?
Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]

 My single girl ones are personalized with my maiden name monogram. I then have married ones with our joint monogram.