Question about Coworkers

texasgurly13

I just got engaged Friday, and I'm already starting some (very limited) wedding planning.  

Anyways, once FH and I decide on a date (I'm going in to the military and I have to wait for my date for basic training), if we decide to do the traditional wedding, I was wondering about inviting coworkers.  

I am only really close with two of them (they were the first two I told about the engagement after I told my family and me and FH's best friends--and then they told everyone else at work).  I've only known them about four months, but we have become good friends.  But if I invite them and don't invite everyone else, then there will be hurt feelings.  

If we do the tradtional wedding, we are planning it to coodinate close to my date that I begin Basic, so I won't have to see the girls who weren't invited afterwards, but I will be there in the months leading up to it.  

I really do want them (the two girls I'm close to) there, but I don't want to have to feel like I have to invite EVERYONE.  So I feel like it is neither all or none.

If we end up doing a civil ceremony, then none of this will be an issue.  

raypoppins

Congratulations!

I was in a similar situation. I was only close to two girls in a 40 person department. I invited the two I was close with and asked them to refrain from wedding talk in the office around the others. If other people brought up the wedding I was vague and changed the subject the best I could. I think I avoided hurt feelings as well as I could.

So I think, if you keep the wedding talk to a minimum at work, it is ok to only invite the two you are close to. If someone really pushes you could always explain that you would have loved to invite everyone, but due to budget constraints you were not able to.

texasgurly13

That's along the lines of what I'm thinking of doing.  I can trust these two to not say anything.  

I'm not sharing wedding details on FB (once we get stuff set) because I'm friends with a lot of the girls from work on there, and I don't want to get involved in any unnecessary drama.  

And if things work out the way I want them to, I will be quitting before the wedding anyways, so I won't have to do any time off requests or anything like that (which are put in a book that EVERYONE sees lol).  

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You are handling it right.  Keep the wedding talk to a minimum at work and invite those that you want at your wedding.