Not quite a rehearsl dinner...

mrspanzica

I am having a DW in Sarasota.  We are not having a rehearsal, but we would like to invite friends and family to join us for dinner the night before.  How do I word the invite on our website so that people know they are invited, but responsible for their own meals? 

ohwhynot

How many people are going to travel to your DW?  You may just want to ask them when they get there what their plans are for the evening.  I can't think of a good way to say "you're on your own for dinner, but are free to join us" on a website, but I think it would sound okay in person if you say "Do you guys want to come out to dinner with us at XYZ restaurant?"  I think its implied in person to person question, unless you said "We'd love to take you out to dinner" that each person pays for him- or herself.

MyNameIsNot

If you are inviting them to dinner, you need to foot the bill.

If you want to let them know where you'll be and ask them to tag along on their own dime, invite via word of mouth.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]If you are inviting them to dinner, you need to foot the bill. If you want to let them know where you'll be and ask them to tag along on their own dime, invite via word of mouth.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

When you and your friends go out to dinner for a birthday or other celebration, do you foot the bill? I know that I don't, and other than grandparents or someone similar having the whole faimly in for a celebratory meal, I don't know anyone who does.

I think that if I was going to a DW and they told me that I was invited to go to dinner at a restaurant, I would make sure I had the funds for it before I went.

But that honestly could be a regional thing.