Kind of off the last post. Vendor meetings...who goes?

jonchrissy

We have 5 people contributing to the wedding.
Some have given x amount.
My grandparents are picking up whatever is leftover.
How do we determine who goes to what? This mostly is a concern with my mom/grandparents and FIs parents. I don't want to show up to the florist with 4 other people in tow, I feel it's pretty crazy. No one has said I want to pay for xyz, it has all been just a check.

Thanks!

sarah0725

I think it depends on who wants to go. We have had our moms along as the representatives of each family with big stuff like booking the ceremony and reception sites, but we're talking to the DJ completely on our own.

Celles

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[QUOTE]<strong>I think it depends on who wants to go.</strong> We have had our moms along as the representatives of each family with big stuff like booking the ceremony and reception sites, but we're talking to the DJ completely on our own.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

Yep. 

I don't think everyone who contributes to the wedding needs to vet every opinion, but if someone wants to attend a specific vendor meeting or meetings, then I'd have no problems with inviting them.  Just talk to people.  If they're close enough to contribute, then they're also close enough to be included in a frank discussion about your plans.  Some may want to be involved with the decisions; others may be happy to write a check and leave it at that.

jerseydevil

Definitely ask them. Money does = strings, BUT that's a lot of people to bring with you and I imagine would be more chaotic than beneficial.

My FI and I are going to appointments for stuff we are paying for together and I'm bringing him and my mom to some stuff that I know my mom wants to be involved with bc I'm really close with her and want to share it with her.

jonchrissy

Well the thing is everyone wants to beinvolved with the SAME things since that's what they're interested in. FMIL, my mom, my grandmother etc all want to go for flowers. They all want to go to the tasting, look at invites (really?). No one cared when we were looking at djs, photographers. I guess it's going to be a big group!