help with thank you notes

[Deleted User]

So I am getting ready to send out my wedding thank you notes however I have lost the paper that tells me what the guest actually got me. Any suggestions?

crfische

Be more responsible?

nda_roxybabe

Wow. Can you remember any of it?

[Deleted User]

I remember some of it but for the guests that I don't remember I just need to know a suggestion for a statement and then I was planning on making it more personal.

PS obviously if I was more responsible I wouldn't be posting now would I?

MeaghanandMichael

I barely mentioned details of the gift in my thank you notes, except for thanking them profusely for their generosity. Though, I guess most of my guests gave cash anyway... I would focus on a memory you have with them from the wedding and something you are looking forward to doing with them in the future if you want to make it more personal.

banana468

Honestly, the only thing I think you can do is do what you can to find the list.  If you can't, with all your searching, do your best to remember what people gave you and then just thank them for their generous gifts and for spending time with you on your wedding day.

I'd get these done asap.  If your wedding day was in June, your notes are extremely tardy.  Make sure you at least make each note as personal as possible. 

AmoroAgain

Actually, I generally dislike mention of the gift in the thank you, so I just thank them for being so kind as to attend, how much we appreciated having them there, that kind of thing.

MeaghanandMichael

Wait, your wedding was in June?

In that case you really suck and are ungracious and I regret that I even took the time to help you. You obviously can not spare the time to thank your own friends and family, why should I?

tlv204

We had the same wedding date! No wonder you lost the list after 7.5 months.

But yeah just mention how great it was to see them and thank them for the generous gift, possibly mentioning something about how it will help you and your husband start out your new life or something.

crfische

Whoa, married in June?

I'll add, be more responsible and polite to my original post.

sucrets4

Invent a time machine and travel back to not lose it and write them MUCH earlier?

ac_in_dc

Did you register? The registry places may be able to tell you who got you what off of your registry. Do you have cards?? Were other ppl there to watch you open the gifts? Maybe looking at the cards and talking to other folks that watched you open stuff up you'll be able to remember some of who got you what.

ThePinkSuperhero

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[QUOTE]So I am getting ready to send out my wedding thank you notes however I have lost the paper that tells me what the guest actually got me. Any suggestions?
Posted by sg0573[/QUOTE]

Make a list of everything you received and try to narrow it down as you go, relying on memory and such?  Maybe your DH remembers some things?

[Deleted User]

Oh geez. Please tell me you didn't actually get married in June. I went to a wedding in July and have yet to receive a TY note and guess what? I judge that girl. Harshly. This is ridiculous.

ohwhynot

If you really did marry in June, I think the first thing your notes should include is an apology.  After that, perhaps mention how great it was to see them and how they helped make your wedding day special.  At this point, most of your guests won't be expecting much from you, anyway, so be as gracious as you can,  I guess.

[Deleted User]

Wow. I am overwhelmed with the witchy-ness of this board. Thank you to the few of you who helped reguardless of knowning if my wedding was last june or not. I don't even know why I'm explaing my situation to those of you who were so rude. I was supposed to get married last june but do to my health I couldn't, I ended up getting married last december. I haven't been on the website to change the date.

My point and frankly the reason why this board pissed me off was due to the fact that the whole point for messaging boards is for HELP. If I needed somebody to be condecending I would have called my mother. Hasn't anybody told you guys if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all? And you claim to give etiquette tips? Psh! Please! Obviously you snarky women need a dose of those same tips you claim to dish out.

Go on flame away. You all obviously have all the time in the world to make people feel like crap. Thank you for not even asking what the situation was and come to conclusion all on your own.