Destination Wedding with a party at home too

mcpa4340

We are having a destination wedding (to have a vacation with our families, because we love Muai, and to keep the guest list to a mininum).  However, we are also planning on having a Marriage Celebration party when we get back for all the people that can't make it to the initial party. 

What is the proper way to send invites?  Can we send invites to the destination wedding to some, and then send separate invites for the celebration at home to those who we couldn't invite to both?  Or do we have to send invites to everyone for both events?

*The destination wedding invite will also have the invite to the home event also.  There will be separate RSVPs for both.

misshart00

What about just having a party when you get back? You don't have to make it wedding related. Then it's two separate functions.

AdeleDazeem

We did two serparate sets of invitations (and STDs).

Our wedding was in Bermuda with twelve guests (parents and siblings + spouses).  Everyone got their own STD (Fodor's book to Bermuda + a booklet from us explaining things) then a proper wedding invitation.

Our AHR was in Philadelphia with 150 people.  It was treated as a separate event.  The STDs said "Please join us to celebrate the marriage of..."  Our invitations read "Together with their families, X and X invite you to celebrate their recent marriage..."  We had insert cards in our invites (pocketfolds!) with Guest Information.  At the bottom of that, we said "The couple married privately, May 5th, 2011 in Southampton, Bermuda."  We didn't want anyone to not get it.

You can see both STDs and both invitations in my married bio.

NariaD

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[QUOTE]We are having a destination wedding (to have a vacation with our families, because we love Muai, and to keep the guest list to a mininum).  However, we are also planning on having a Marriage Celebration party when we get back for all the people that can't make it to the initial party.  What is the proper way to send invites?  Can we send invites to the destination wedding to some, and then send separate invites for the celebration at home to those who we couldn't invite to both?  Or do we have to send invites to everyone for both events? *The destination wedding invite will also have the invite to the home event also.  There will be separate RSVPs for both.
Posted by mcpa4340[/QUOTE]

<div>The reception is a gift to thank those who come to celebrate your wedding, so it doesn't make much sense to invite people who aren't invited to the wedding.</div><div>
</div><div>I agree make it two sepearate events, with the party once you reutrn home not a "reception" but rather just a gathering of friends. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: If your ceremony is truly just immediate family, then I can see it being ok. But if you cross the line into extended family, a couple of friends, etc it gets messy. </div>

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]The at home party is not a part of your wedding.  That is in Maui.  You can have as many parties as you like at any time.  Just don't try to make them a part of your wedding.  Since the at home party isn't part of your wedding, the invitation should be sent separately.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

This.  Meaning you should send two separate invitations (and not make it a piece of your wedding invite) but you don't have to send both to everyone; so none of your poll options (if I'm reading them right) fit.

Wedding invitations to everyone invited to the wedding.  Party invitations to everyone invited to the party.