Shower Question/ Poll

[Deleted User]

I see a lot of posts about showers and getting gifts for the hostesses. How many of you knew about your shower? How many of you had surprise showers? My family and general group of friends usually make surprise showers for each other thrown by the bridesmaids. Since I wouldn't know when the shower is I would get them a hostess/thank you gift when I give them gifts for being bridesmaids. Does this seem odd to any one? Is there anywhere else this is customary? I never heard of a bride being told when her shower is before TK.

squirrly

I only know of one surprise shower IRL.  Most of the time peole like to know when they're going to be the guest of honor so that they're dressed properly, etc.  Personally, I think surprise parties are in really, really poor taste, for any occasion. 

As for what to do with the gift if someone DOES throw a surprise shower - just give it to them the next time you see them. 

lyndausvi

My family and friends normally does surprise showers,  the bride generally gives a hostess gift after the fact.

My shower was not a surprise because I had to fly in.

brookelynpaisley

I would give them a gift the next time you see them after the shower and make them separate and in addition to any gifts you're planning to give your bridesmaids. They should be 2 separate thank you's for two separate events.

[Deleted User]

I knew about my shower as well. Personally, I would not have wanted a surprise shower. Plus, we live out of state so I had to know well enough in advance not only for time off of work but also to get a plane ticket.

I agree with squirrly, just give the hostess the gift the next time you see her or hand deliever it to her house. It doesn't have to be anything big or pricey, just something that says thank you. There often is a lot of effort, time and money that goes into throwing a shower.

opalsky007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-question-poll-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2de2cd31-441e-4a0b-8e60-5d51c27ce62dPost:ae0ad247-4e4c-42fa-95fc-824014da45c3">Re: Shower Question/ Poll</a>:
[QUOTE]I would give them a gift the next time you see them after the shower and make them separate and in addition to any gifts you're planning to give your bridesmaids. They should be 2 separate thank you's for two separate events.
Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

I agree.

elisabethb29

I didn't have any surprise showers, but I would agree with PPs, just give a small gift and thank you card shortly after.