Move it up?

Joanna Jones

Ok, so my fiance and I originally planned to be married next June 19, 2010. This was because he was supposed to be in his Military training for 40 weeks. Recently we found out he will only be in training for 20 weeks and then will be stationed and begin working. Knowing this information, we can't see the point in being apart and miserable for an entire year when we can move it up and be together again sooner. I am asking how I should tell my parents that we would like to move our wedding up to January. I'm sure all of you can understand the pain of having to say goodbye every 2 1/2 months and being apart when all you want is to begin your life together. If there are any other military fiance's out there, help me out, please! And anyone that can give me some advice, please, feel free!

mbcdefg

I am asking how I should tell my parents that we would like to move our wedding up to January. I'm not really following you here. If you're both adults, then what's the problem with setting your own wedding date? Why are you having trouble telling your parents?

Leah&Christian09

"Hey, mom, dad, guess what!  FI's training plans have changed, and he's going to be stationed overseas next year, so we decided to move the wedding up to January.  I guess I have a lot of work to do!"

wdc*bride

1.  "Good news!  We can get married sooner!  What dates in January 2010 work for you?"2.  There is a military brides board on here.  You can definitely get lots of support by introducing yourself and posting over there.3.  I'd recommend not using your email for your sign in name.  You have to create a new account to switch your name (stupid, I know), but there are crazy people out there and you should avoid giving out any personal info on here.

handfast4me

I was a military wife the first time around, and my current DH is retired military.  It is VERY important, for legal issues alone, for you to marry before he PCSs right after training (permanent change of station, to the civilians, this is known as a transfer) to his duty station because of the weight and money.  If you're not married, they won't pay for you to go with him, nor any of your stuff.  If you're married, however, your combined stuff is moved.  And one more thing to consider.   And for another reason which I know you don't want to think about.   If he's injured or worse, if you're not married, you have no rights at all if you're not married. You won't be able to visit him in the military hospital, etc.  I know, my first husband was injured in the line of duty (my current husband was, too, but I didn't know him when that happened), and had we not been married I would not have been able to be an advocate for his care, to make sure he had as good as recovery as possible.  Also, it is against military rules for an unmarried military member to be having sex with anyone else.  The military member can be kicked out because of this. Don't blame me, I didn't make up the rules, I'm just stating them here.  I don't think it would happen right now, because of Iraq and Afghanistan.  But if history follows as it has in the past with Democrats in the white house, if there's a RIF (reduction in forces) they will look for any reason to kick people out.   You need to protect yourself first. 

Jamilynn627

Ditto pps. Just tell them. I assume they know you're engaged so why would it be difficult to tell them your wedding is being moved up?