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VENT!!!

I just need to vent...comments are welcome!  Here's the situation...we are having a small intimate wedding four hours away from our hometown.  We have 38 seat available at the wedding.  I have people asking me about the wedding and basically assuming that they are invited.  These people are mainly my extended family (cousins) that I am not close to and my parents friends.  When I kindly tell them we are having a small family wedding in North Carolina, they seem to be offended, annoyed etc.  I don't know how else to word it any nicer.  I would love just to say "You're not invited.  Get over it!" I just want to scream.  This is the only thing that I have really stressed about.  I just don't understand why they get so mad.  One cousin emailed my mother and said she heard I was getting married and wanted to know when because they were planning their vacation around my wedding.  My mom emailed back and explained the situation and said that if they were interested we would let them know as soon as possible about the availability.  She emailed back, "Oh no don't go to that trouble".  And that's all it said.  Maybe I am reading it with the wrong tone.  But if that email had came to me I would have said, It's not a problem don't worry about it.  I wish them well. etc.  And I would have never invited myself in the first place.  Also, grooms mom is mad because we aren't inviting her friends...that I've never met by the  way.  Why do other people cause so much stress on the couple getting married.  

If you took time to read this thanks!  I just wish we would have eloped! 

Re: VENT!!!

  • srkropfsrkropf member
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    My FI and I have a rule, I can invite who I want to invite from my friends and family and he gets to invite his friends and family. Any issues that come up are dealt with by that side's marriage representative-- so I'll deal with my family, he with his. I would complety ignore any rude, obnoxious, guest who are not paying for the wedding, and have your FI talk with your FMIL-- he needs to tell her what's going on-- and is she contributing any large finanical support to the wedding?
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  • We have been trying to deal with our "own" family but it's still hard.  His parents have not offered to pay for anything.  So who knows...  So far, we or my parents have paid for everything. 
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