all set, thank you

eimprota5

thank you

kcscejal

I'm sure they gave you the invitation to be nice, not just because they wanted a gift.  I sent lots of invitations to relatives I knew wouldn't be able to make it, but I still wanted them to know they were welcome and wanted.  If you want to give a gift then do so.  If you don't then don't.  But I highly doubt the invitation was malicious in intent.

MyUserName1

Oh, for heaven's sake.  Inviting someone even though they said they couldn't make it isn't gift grabby.  Plans change.  They were being POLITE. 

Also, why can't you go without your husband?

mbody

I think they did the right thing by sending an invitation. Invites should go to everyone that you want at the wedding, even if they got a verbal no rsvp. Don't look at this as gift grabby. You aren't obligated to send a gift. FWIW, I'd send a gift, but maybe not as much as if I was attending the wedding/reception.

CFM102012

I agree with PP.  There are often people asking if they should invite someone even though that person already said they couldn't come after receiving an STD.  The answer is to always go ahead and send the invite.  Plans can change. They want you to know that they still want to you to come if you've changed your mind.  Even if you don't feel like going and you don't want to get them a gift you could always send a card.

lyndausvi

I told my cousin I could not go to her wedding 9 months out.  I honestly thought I could not go because of work.

7 months out I realized I could actually go because work decided to shut down a few weeks eariler than planned.  I never got the invitation, so I didn't go. It sucked because I really wanted to see my family, but I was not going to be one of those people who asked for an invite.

Point is, plans change.  They didn't invited to be gift grabby, plans often change from the time STD's come out and invites.  They wanted you to know you are still invited.

ahhhitsshannyn

Even if people cant come, it is always a courtesy to extend an invitation just in case things change. I do not think this is a gift grab, but a polite extension of telling you that you are welcome. I think you are reading into this way too much, and completely the wrong way.

DelBride2012

If the bride had come on here and asked, we would have told her to send you an invitation to be polite and in case you changed your mind. So they were probably just being polite. Especially true in this case, since you're being disingenuous when you say you "can't" go, when in reality, you just don't want to. 

SparrowSong

They are not in the wrong to send an invite. Things change. Plans change. You are able to attend things without a spouse if he is currently out of the country. Single people do it all the time and survive. If you don't want to just RSVP no. You can send a gift if you want, but you don't have to. An invite is not (should not be) a solicitation for a gift. 

em01092

The only time I think it's weird and possibly gift grabby like that is when I get an invitation to a wedding from like my 4th cousin I have never met. IMO, that is a little odd, but whatever.  In your case, I think they were just being polite because plans can change, and you could attend solo you know. 

pkontk

Yeah, ditto to what PPs said.  One of my FI's really good friends from college (actually, the couple that met in college) has a scheduled c-section the day after our wedding.  We know they won't be there.  We still sent an STD and will still send them an invitation, so they know we aren't excluding them just because they can't make it.