shower and registry etiquette

daffydillie

So, I did not make a huge registry because we had a house fire and are rebuilding our house and still fighting the insurance company on getting paid. It is what it is. But I didnt make a large registry because I didnt have time and I didnt want to get a lot of stuff that we would just have to put in storage but I knew that there would be people that would insist on buying us something tangible.

Well, now my MOH and the BM are throwing us a couples shower/engagement party rolled into one to celebrate. They ended up inviting like 75ish people that are really close friends and family of FI and I. I just looked at our registry and I only have 45 items on it. I also got an email about a "completion discount" on our credit card that is actually really nice since we have to redo everything.

Would it be in poor taste to add more items or leave it alone? I am torn on what is the right thing to do and what we should do.

Also, we finally got caught up with the house and should be moving in the week before the shower/party.

loca4pook

Nobody would probably know if you did add items, so go for it...Those registries are a work in progress sometimed, so go for it

AJuliaNJ

That wouldn't be a problem at all. I've read that you are actually supposed to replenish it when it gets low to ensure your guests have options in all price ranges and are not left to choose between a $700 pots and pans set or a $2 apple corer. 

daffydillie

FI and I were talking about adding stuff we needed for the house in general just so we could get the completion discount because we have a whole house to furnish and replenish (we have been living in a studio apartment more or less since the fire.) I just dont want to offend anyone with a large registry.

Andama08

Add items, on my wedding website I said how the registry would be updated and things would be added until the wedding.

Simply Fated

I think it's great to add things, especially at different price points.

misssunshine17

People will obviously know your situation and many will probably still want to get you boxed gifts. I would add whatever you need to a registry.

teachmegs1

I've added items a couple of times. Once to my Macys and once to my Target one. I saw a casual china set for holiday parties that I liked a few weeks ago, that wasn't available when we went to register. Also, there have been some items that in talking to others and thinking about, we'd like to have in our home. It's no big worry to add items. I asked the same ? in the registry board and those who posted said not to worry.
Sorry to hear about your house.  Good luck with the new build and moving in.

hoffse

We added items to our Macy's registry yesterday because everything in a particular price-point has been purchased, and we still have a lot of guests who haven't shopped.  They were not priority items for us (hence the reason they didn't get added in the first place), but they are things we would like to have and would actually use.

I think with a guestlist that big you need more items.  Most people have been buying us stuff in pairs or more - even things like place settings of china, etc.

OwningAHome1981

The registries recommend to have twice as many gifts on them then you have people buying. General rule of thumb, I guess.

No problem in adding more things to it. Mine's actually getting low, so we added a few things ourselves.

And I don't think a large registry would offend anyone unless you had like a bunch of items that were $500 or something. As a guest, I like to see a larger registry b/c it means more options to choose from.

And of course no one is obligated to buy from a registry or at all, but it's good to have a lot of options at different price points too- makes it easier for your guests.