Introducing the parents.

MDORSEY22

So the fiance and I's parents have never met. We know that they both want to help with the wedding, but are both on limit funds. We are planning on inviting our parent's both for a cookout in the next month and want to address out ideas and hopes for the wedding, as well as out desire to get married in october instead of our original May of next year idea. Not asking for money or anything just letting them know what our plans are and maybe discussing a game plan for speeding up the wedding planning process.

good/bad idea?

ggmae

I would say it's a good idea, as long as there is no pressure put on them to contribute financially. No one likes being put in that situation. If you are planning to push your wedding up to this October, the sooner you tell them the better, IMO.

I lucked out because DH and I went to high school together, so our parents were familiar with each other. However, had they never met I'm sure we would have taken them out to dinner together so that they could meet and chat.

LesaBear

This sounds like a bad idea to me. They should meet but I wouldn't get into wedding details at the first meeting. Parents tend to have strong opinions on their children's weddings. With our families, it would be too much of a risk of a major fight on day one.

ggmae

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_introducing-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3202d5c5-9155-4251-b63c-3377e43c0d64Post:e45990c8-b607-4586-abc5-d96230762d15">Re: Introducing the parents.</a>:
[QUOTE]This sounds like a bad idea to me. They should meet but I wouldn't get into wedding details at the first meeting. Parents tend to have strong opinions on their children's weddings. With our families, it would be too much of a risk of a major fight on day one.
Posted by LesaBear[/QUOTE]

OP - You know best how the parents will react to your wedding plans. If they will become upset like Lesa mentioned, then talk to them separately about the wedding. If you think that it'd be no big deal (it wouldn't be w/ my parents), then talk about it.