Bach. Party Coordinator gift?

Peledreamsofrain

Hi all, looking for more of your wonderful advice for wedding events (ack only 4 weeks!).

My bachelorette party is a bit untraditional in that it is being hosted by a lady who is not in my bridal party.  She's a friend that LOVES to party, and jumped all over the idea of planning the event as soon as she found out nobody was planning it yet (lol she jumped on it like 3 months ago). 

At this point, she's organized (and funded) an event that looks amazing and is beyond my wildest dreams for a bachelorette party.  I'm so deeply touched by her generosity.

I would like to give her a gift as thanks, but I'm uncertain on when I should do this.  Should it be at the party itself while the gifts are being opened?  I plan on giving the BP their gifts then as well.  Or should i give it to her after when we are alone?

So torn!

OliveOilsMom

I would give the host her gift after the b party.  Also, I wouldn't give your BMs their gifts at the B party either.  The only way I would do this is if the only people attending the b party are the host and your BM.  It could get awkward for the non-gift receiving attendees.  In my experience, the WP received their gifts at the RD.

StephBeanWed61502

If the ONLY people at your Bach party are the bridal party plus this girl, then yes, you could give them all their gifts at that time, and I think it would be okay. If anyone else is going to be present at the Bach party, I would not hand out gifts to some but not others, as it could cause hurt feelings. Personally, I would wait until I had some time alone with her to give her her present.

Peledreamsofrain

Thanks guys, that's the direction I've been leaning, but it's good to hear other opinions. 

I'm torn about the BP gifts because of the timing of things.  Most of my BP is from out of town, so the only time they'll be all together before the wedding is the B party.  Everything is very tight timing-wise.  Maybe I can move the gifts to the salon right before we are getting ready for the ceremony.  My only worry is that the gifts are nice sandals and I don't want them to think I'm pressuring them to wear the sandals for the wedding. 

Ack!  I'm not cracked up to be an event coordinator :P

OliveOilsMom

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bach-party-coordinator-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3286bcde-aff1-4bfd-b35e-9a1b27a45134Post:24171bcf-0017-4d9c-8fc9-330801ad9b7b">Re: Bach. Party Coordinator gift?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks guys, that's the direction I've been leaning, but it's good to hear other opinions.  I'm torn about the BP gifts because of the timing of things.  <strong>Most of my BP is from out of town, so the only time they'll be all together before the wedding is the B party.  </strong>Everything is very tight timing-wise.  Maybe I can move the gifts to the salon right before we are getting ready for the ceremony.  My only worry is that the gifts are nice sandals and I don't want them to think I'm pressuring them to wear the sandals for the wedding.  Ack!  I'm not cracked up to be an event coordinator :P
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

Perhaps you can arrange for your BP to meet up at your house just before the start of your B party to give out the BP gifts?  Or if your BP is staying over the night of the B party, you could hand them out the next morning before they head home?

Peledreamsofrain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bach-party-coordinator-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3286bcde-aff1-4bfd-b35e-9a1b27a45134Post:e4368a74-30c7-4366-b69d-a304d8866263">Re: Bach. Party Coordinator gift?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bach. Party Coordinator gift? : Perhaps you can arrange for your BP to meet up at your house just before the start of your B party to give out the BP gifts?  Or if your BP is staying over the night of the B party, you could hand them out the next morning before they head home?
Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

I like this idea!  One of my bridesmaids gets in at 11am that morning, and the party doesn't start until 5:45 (dinner, then beauty party at a hotel downtown, then night on the town).  I can finish up decorating the reception venue by 4:30, we all meet at my place, and do it then before heading out.  You're awesome!