WR - "It never occurred to me..."

MeaghanandMichael

... to have colored shoes at my wedding. Damn those would have been cute.

... to have a cash bar, for any reason.

... to tell my MIL since she wasn't paying she could butt out. I always listened to every word like a good FDIL and then smacked my own head against a wall for 5 hours.

You?

AmoroAgain

... what I was going to do with all this crap once the wedding was over.

tlv204

Ditto amoro, I'm sick of looking at it. Luckily a lot of it is still at my mom's house, I need to get all of it together and try to sell it I guess.

crfische

...That someone has to take all the shiit down at the end of the night.

...To have a "throwing bouquet." I still find it unnecessary.

...To NOT have a dollar dance.

banana468

... to me to wear colored shoes either!  I would have added blue or green satin shoes instead and it's one of those things that I think back and go, "Why did I do it this way??"

...to put colors in my bouquet.  Looking back, I would have considered colored flowers in my bouquet with cream/white flowers for the BMs.  I think I would have liked the contrast better.

...that we could seat in a way other than a sweetheart table or a head table.  We went with a sweetheart but now I'm wondering if a king table with all our BP and their dates could have been fun.

...to record MIL's insistence on the mother son dance with DH so that two years later, it could be replayed while she lied about it.

MeaghanandMichael

... to have a unity candle, or sand ceremony, or write my own vows. It is the Catholic in me.'

... how many people aim to 'cover their plate' when they go to a wedding, whatever that means.

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wr-never-occured?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:32bbe9fd-fc75-46bd-a6b7-b71da3f46c1cPost:ced886f6-a1ad-4ecc-bdab-068c16715d05">Re: WR - "It never occured to me..."</a>:
[QUOTE] ... that people can really hate buffets. I also enjoyed them because it meant I got to eat as much as I wanted of whatever I liked rather than push around limp asparagus.
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]

I agree!  Since I'm picky (and a veg), I'd much rather be able to go up and get 3 rolls and a heap of pasta instead of some meal that I usually don't like.

crfische

It never occurred to me to:

Dye a crinoline.
Design a monogram.
Have a personalized aisle runner. (Wtf?)
DIY anything.

MeaghanandMichael

... that my friends my not actually make it back to their hotel rooms the next town over and end up sleeping on couches in the reception of the inn. Thank god we had rented it out for just us.

... to have my florist show me an example of my bms bouquets. I was so worried about the centerpieces I never had her show me the bouquets. They ended up in tons of pics and I kind of hated them.

MeaghanandMichael

I love buffets! However, they caaaan be poorly done. Many buffets are never refreshed, cold, and out of the way for granny to get to. I love the food options, but you have to make sure your venue is on top of them.

tlv204

Ditto on the monogram and aisle runner.

It never occurred to me to not send thank yous for anything, to NOT wear red shoes, to get my makeup professionally done, to invite my cousins' 20 children under the age of 5, to have a flower girl or ring bearer.

I also love buffets. Would much rather binge on fettuccine and rolls than poke at undercooked cold steak.  Steak isn't always better apparently.

sarahmk5

(some repeats)

...to have a cash bar.

...to not do a dollar dance.

...that people have such drama mixing family and wedding parties.  I never would have thought to add FI's SILS or that they would care (they don't).

...to not wear a veil.

shellydiane820

That I would have 3rd cousins be mean to my grandma because I didn't invite them to the wedding.  wtf?

lauralaur

...to save room for cake. I was too full to eat my slice and we did not save the top tier, everyone tells me it was delicious though.

...that mixing two colors for the pocket squares would be such a bad idea. None of the guys could figure out what they were supposed to do with the two, and the pocket squares on all the guys on H's side look rediculous in the photos (small detail, but I see it).

...that I have about zero space in my apartment for half the stuff people bought us for the wedding that we registered for. We should not have registered for anywhere near as much as we did. We still haven't put all of the gifts away because, well, we can't.

ac_in_dc

To tell DH that my limo driver was an ass_hole before he gave him a fat tip at the end of the day (the driver that took DH's side was awesome).

AmoroAgain

... to invite my dad's side of the family. 

... to fit as much bling as possible onto either my engagement or wedding ring.  There is a line people.  DO NOT CROSS IT.

MeaghanandMichael

... to have basically anything with my name, mike's name, our wedding date, our intitials or our monogram on it.

... to actually drink out of the champagne flutes we had been gifted, or cut with the cake knives we had been gifted. Oops.

mandysmear

... to see each other before the ceremony

... to have a gift opening or day after brunch

... to dye my crinoline

... to pack an emergency "what if" kit with a sewing kit, deodorant, etc.

... to have sparkling wine for toasting

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wr-never-occured?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:32bbe9fd-fc75-46bd-a6b7-b71da3f46c1cPost:551e1ccd-dd63-4733-aca4-18f4fa04c483">Re: WR - "It never occurred to me..."</a>:
[QUOTE] ... to have an aisle runner, or one of those spotlight, monogram things on the dance floor (I know it has a name, but can't remember).
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]

Gobo.  :)

SteveandKris

 - to post a picture of my e-ring on FB

lauralaur

It also never occurred to me to invite my step-mother's family. I did invite her mother, who I have a relationship with, but I did not invite the rest of her family because I've met all of them maybe once in the 10+ years she and my father have been married. I never get invited to their family vacations, and her niece got married about two years ago and didn't invite me because I'm sure it never occurred to her to invite me! But, I think my Dad is bent out of shape over it because a) HE talks to these people all the time and for whatever reason always tries to explain to them why they were not invited and b) I invited all of my step-father's family, whom I am very close to, and who invited me to their family wedding in this same year (and it never would have occurred to them not to because we are close).

End rant.

agk0125

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wr-never-occured?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:32bbe9fd-fc75-46bd-a6b7-b71da3f46c1cPost:551e1ccd-dd63-4733-aca4-18f4fa04c483">Re: WR - "It never occurred to me..."</a>:
[QUOTE]... it never occured to me that one of my BM boyfriends would try to cheat on her at the wedding, and that she would turn a blind eye on it. ... to have an aisle runner, or one of those spotlight, monogram things on the dance floor (I know it has a name, but can't remember).
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]

It's called a gobo and I also never in a million years would think to do that.

SarahPLiz

- to invite my step-dad's brothers and sisters, even though it pisses him off. I can't even fit my own first cousins on the guest list.

- to NOT have a dollar dance, because they are expected in my circle.


well, i think TK is making lots of stuff occur to me...

ExpatPumpkin

- to hire a limo or any "special" car.

- to have a cash bar or dry reception.

- to have a buffet.

- to match the groom/groomsmen to the bridesmaids' dresses.

- to write my own vows.  Are Catholics even allowed?

tlv204

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[QUOTE] - to write my own vows.  Are Catholics even allowed?
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

I don't think so, we weren't at least. We had to choose from a booklet :) I always wanted a poem read at our ceremony but couldn't because it was Catholic.  Actually having a Catholic ceremony never occurred to me at first because H isn't even really practicing and I'm not Christian, but apparently it was important to him.

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wr-never-occured?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:32bbe9fd-fc75-46bd-a6b7-b71da3f46c1cPost:57bc92bf-d4ea-4658-8e45-5f94655b8671">Re: WR - "It never occurred to me..."</a>:
[QUOTE]- to hire a limo or any "special" car. - to have a cash bar or dry reception. - to have a buffet. - to match the groom/groomsmen to the bridesmaids' dresses. - to write my own vows.  Are Catholics even allowed?
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

It actually never occured to me to do a buffet either. The food is just too good at my place (award winning.)

And no, Catholics are not allowed to write their own vows. I see this question all the time though if you can write your own vows as a Catholic... but that never occured to me to change the mass, you know? We did however write our own prayer that we shared with every one on our wedding day at the church. It was more of a calling for a blessing than vows though.

tlv204

We also had the option to write a prayer and read it aloud as part of the homily.  Too bad H is terrified of public speaking. Our priest actually made a joke about how I was all for it but H said no, so he "had" to do the homily instead.  It was kind of awkward honestly and one of the few things I remember from the ceremony.

bbyckes

It never occurred to me that people would really care that much about my wedding.  So much so, they would start inviting themselves.  I'm still rather shocked.

SaraAndrew2010

- to have a dollar dance *

- to dye my crinoline *

- to have personal attendants *

- to have a honeymoon registry

- not to have a gap between a Catholic mass and reception

- not to have our siblings in the WP

* I had seriously never heard of these things before going on TK

ayankeebelle

...to HAVE a dollar dance.

...to make my bridesmaids match from head to toe.

dramabooks

I have already decided to wear colored shoes!  I think it will look really cute when they peek out from under the dress, while I'm walking, dancing, etc., a little unexpected.
I don't know what to write that didn't occure to me... maybe it will happen further into the planning.