Rude Groomsman

mkk000

My fiance's groomsman was with a friend of his. The groomsman called my fiance, and told him that this friend wanted to come to our wedding. We have met this guy a few times and are not close to him at all, and have not seen him in 4 years.

Obviously he is not invited to the wedding, and this was so rude of my fiance's groomsman to do, especially while the groomsman was asking in front of the friend. My fiance kind of brushed it off and said that we will see.

I guess I'm partially shocked that the groomsman would even do this, and now I need to know how my fiance should address it.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]My fiance's groomsman was with a friend of his. The groomsman called my fiance, and told him that this friend wanted to come to our wedding. We have met this guy a few times and are not close to him at all, and have not seen him in 4 years. Obviously he is not invited to the wedding, and this was so rude of my fiance's groomsman to do, especially while the groomsman was asking in front of the friend. My fiance kind of brushed it off and said that we will see. I guess I'm partially shocked that the groomsman would even do this, and now I need to know how my fiance should address it.
Posted by mkk000[/QUOTE]
  Tell him no.

Mrs.Bedwell

Wow, I can't believe he did that. But sometimes guys don't realize how rude doing this is. I would just have your fiance tell him that the guest list is already maxed out and there's just no room.

luckyme502

Yes it was rude of him.  Just tell him no. 

sarah0725

What everyone else said. This is a pretty simple one.

brookelynpaisley

Sometimes guys are clueless. They also don't have the emotional feelings about weddings that we do, so thankfully, he probably doesn't really care all that much abut being told he can't come. The guy's thinking was probably along the lines of "free booze and single bridesmaids... I wanna go!" Was it rude of your GM to ask, sure. But I doubt he really meant any harm - it's more male ignorance about etiquette than anything. If it comes up again, just say you're keeping it to close friends and family only.

miss.jawright

Single men who have never been married often don't understand the etiquette surrounding weddings. Just say no!

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]My fiance's groomsman was with a friend of his. The groomsman called my fiance, and told him that this friend wanted to come to our wedding. We have met this guy a few times and are not close to him at all, and have not seen him in 4 years. <strong>Obviously he is not invited to the wedding, and this was so rude of my fiance's groomsman to do, especially while the groomsman was asking in front of the friend. </strong>My fiance kind of brushed it off and said that we will see. I guess I'm partially shocked that the groomsman would even do this, and now I need to know how my fiance should address it.
Posted by mkk000[/QUOTE]

This reminds me of when you're kids and you get your friend to stand there while you ask your mom if she can sleep over, to guilt Mom into saying yes. So, basically your GM is a 7 year old girl. ;)

mizri

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[QUOTE]In Response to Rude Groomsman : This reminds me of when you're kids and you get your friend to stand there while you ask your mom if she can sleep over, to guilt Mom into saying yes. So, basically your GM is a 7 year old girl. ;)
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>I did this so many times, and each time, my mom would say yes, and later I'd get in trouble for doing it.  She always said that the next time I did it, she would say no, but she never did.</div>