Hi ladies! I am a bit split on this issue. I am currently printing out my programs section by section (one of those DIY kits that looks great) and I am working on the bridal party page...
The issue is I had a bridesmaid who is a close friend of mine. I asked her to be in the wedding and she was so excited. We went and she bought her dress right away as she knew she was moving to NC (from FL where I live) and really got into the wedding planning before she left.
Well, a few months later I received a 4 page long hand written letter letting me know she loves me but she needs to bow out as she will be VERY pregnant on my wedding day and she is not sure if she can even make it but she will try (she will be 8 months along). She was not trying to get pregnant but it happened. we are also social workers so the letter actually made me laugh (4 pages of therapy discussing how she understands all of my conflicting feelings and that it is ok to experience all of them:) She didn't even tell her mother she was pregnant yet because she did not want me finding out on FB and worrying. Once I called her and spoke with her she finally told everyone.
So, my question is....do i put her name in the program? My mother says yes becuase she bought the dress and full intention of being in the wedding and we are close. My friend said no becuase she is not actually standing up and is not contributing to the overall BM duties (which really, only 2 of the remaining 5 are anyway which I knew would happen...).
Thoughts?