My FBIL is planning to throw a bachelor party for FI. He is asking about the guys that should be invited and it is getting a little sticky.
FI is a volunteer on 2 fire departments and a rescue squad. He has formed friendships with lots of guys on each dept/squad- but in a social 'lets go grab a drink after the weekly meeting' type of way. The guest list is tight due to our large families, so we decided not to invite these friend since he only really hangs out with them at the firehouse/rescue squad building.
However, the guys would still like to partake in bachelor party festivities. I think the plan is paintball and whitewater rafting, so nothing crazy.
Would it be wrong to invite these guys along? I am aware that no one should be invited to pre-wedding parties if they are not invited to the wedding. I kind of see this as being equivalent to a work bridal shower that is held even when no or few people from work are invited, but I could see it being taken the wrong way as well.
FI would like these guys to be there, but he also understodd when I explained about the pre-wedding party rule.
Any advice would be wonderful. Thanks!