Shower Invitations

[Deleted User]

So. Here's the deal. NOT throwing my own shower. My mom, FMIL, and bridesmaids are all pitching in and doing all the planning. 

My mom texted me today saying "THE INVITATIONS HAVEN'T GONE OUT YET, WHAT DO WE DO? TELL BM TO HURRY."

The RSVP is March 24th. 

Is this something to be concerned over? By "concerned" I really just mean, is my mom ok to be all USING CAPS IN TEXT MESSAGES or can I tell her to calm down, that that is plenty time for a shower?

My only real question about what I should do is--should I tell her to leave off out-of-towners now? We have people on the list from FL, NJ, MO, etc. I'm afraid if they get an invite this close to the RSVP, they will think they were ONLY invited for a gift, as it's too close for them to even try to come. I'd rather take them off the list than offend them.

And I'm not telling that BM anything. I'm not getting in the middle of it. Aside from possibly having her take out the OOT guests, based on feedback.

Summer2011Bride

You're right to stay out of it. Honestly for one of my showers, my H's aunt who hosted it sent the invitations out REALLY late. Like a week and a half before the RSVP date, which was ony 4 days before the shower. I still had a ton of people show up.

I do think you can tell your mom to not stress over it. If your mom is concerned about the lateness of the invites, can SHE be the one to get them together and send out? She could offer to the BMs that she would be happy to do them and take it on herself if she is interested in doing so.

Jen4948

I'd tell your mother not to stress over it and not to use all caps because it does have the appearance of shouting, but otherwise not get involved in the plans. Let her know that it's between her and the hostesses.

Lored

I'd stay out of it. Just more stress for you getting involved. Can your mom just ask your BM when she is planning to send them out??

[Deleted User]

Ok, thanks guys. My mom texted OTHER BM, who texted BM, and said BM was sending them out Monday.

MOST are in-town, and they will get them Tuesday. I think it's not a big deal.

I also saw BM today and she mentioned all of the above to me, and said she looked it up and said she looked it up and thought invitations go out 4 weeks before a party, so she didn't know she was doing anything wrong, and she looked a little distraught, so I hope my mom didn't freak out OTHER BM ,who freaked out THIS BM. I told her I'm sure it will be fine, and my mom was just concerned, and our RSVP date is indeed a little early (the shower is April 6th), so I knew everything would be great.

So, I didn't "stay out" because it was brought up, but it seems to be resolved nonetheless. Mom's calm, BM is cool, we're good.

Small fire extinguished.