I'm a long-time E lurker. I haven't posted much, but I didn't want to post this under my real SN.
I've been married less than a year. All we do is fight. (Like serious fights, with threats to move out and get divorced and all that.) All we did was fight before the wedding too. I almost called it off in the month before the wedding, but I didn't have the courage and didn't want to let everyone down. I have a really hard time with stuff like that.
We spent most of our relationship long-distance, both before and after we got engaged. And there were lots of stresses, job-related, LDR-related, moving-in-together-related, etc. I figured that once a lot of that went away, that we'd get back to normal and get along. Though I'm not entirely sure what our normal is at this point.
I do still love him and still care about him. And I know the first year of marriage is by far the hardest. But I'm also miserable. So is he, though he says he really wants to make it work. We're both unhappy. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared to end it -- scared of being alone, of judgments from family/friends/etc, scared of taking this step -- but I don't know if there's anything salvageable there.
Not entirely sure why I posted this. I think I just need words of wisdom from people who have been there, if there are any, since it's so hard to talk about stuff like this to people IRL.