Just Married, Death in family

bellaxanthe

So this is more of a "is this in good/poor taste" sort of question. My FI dear aunt tragically died over thanksgiving weekend in a car crash.  She was our reader at the wedding just 2 weeks before. I have some really lovely photos of her and wondered about bringing them to the family at the funeral (after the ceremony at the luncheon).  Is it too soon? If it were me - I would want them to look back and smile at better times. But I don't want to make a bad situation worse. We don't live close and I'm not sure at this point whether we will see them this holiday.

What do you think?

pinkpinot

I think you should bring the photos!  It's not in poor taste at all and a wonderful way for everyone to remember her and the special role she played at your wedding.  I'm sorry for your loss. 

ohwhynot

I'm really sorry to hear that.  That's just so sad.  I think I'd keep the photos in my purse, and if the time seems right, you might want to bring them out.  Play it by ear - if people are looking at other photos of her (many funeral homes provide photo boards for families to make up), and/or discussing how wonderful it was to see her at  your wedding, you can bring them out.  If the right time never comes up, just keep them in your purse.

salt78

I think you should definitely bring them! It's a nice sentiment.

And I am so sorry for you and your husband's loss. What a tragic story.

emilyinchile

I'd bring them. If it doesn't feel right to pass them around during lunch, you can always have them in an envelope to give to her husband/children/whoever would be appropriate so that they have them for the future.

mypalbabs

It's common to have photos displayed at funerals (well, okay, it's normal for our family).  I'd ask whomever is planning the service if that is being done.  If so, select one photo featuring your spouse's aunt and bring it in an appropriate frame to set out with the other photos.

Do not, do not, do not bring an entire photo album of your wedding and pass it around.

SeptemberFall2011

I agree with the first poster...I think it would be a lovely idea!  A friend of mine died shortly after a wedding and we had photos of her circulating and talked about it (both the wedding and her and other memories)

bellaxanthe

Thanks everyone. I will keep in my purse to give to her daughters.  I do like the idea of a framed photo, I know that they would appreciate that someday. I wasn't going to bring an album, just the photos of her reading. Thanks everyone.

jayjoe

At all the funerals i've been to for my family, we have had tons of pictures out. One or two in a frame, the rest in random little shoe boxes around the room. For us, it has always brought comfort. So many times at wakes we were gathered around looking at old pictures and reliving memories. It made us feel like that whoever we lost was still there.

If i were his family (and im terribly sorry for his loss. my aunt just passed away as well and its been brutal on us) i would love those pictures.