Ok, so here's the deal. FI and I hate his friend's wife. She's a cheating, gold digging ... (it's too long and horrible a story to go into details) and we really don't want her at the wedding. His friend knows how we, and every person who knows her and will be at the wedding, feel about her. Is there a way to invite him and not her that isn't completely rude? or that makes it clear only he is invited? Or do we not invite him so as to avoid the whole issue? I know it sounds horrible but we really cant stand her and it is our day.