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Do I invite an old co-worker?

My fiance works in a small ofifice so we are inviting everyone.  There was a new hire so he got added to our list and got a save the date.  My fiance was friendly with him at work, but not outside of work.  Since the save the dates went out, this new co-worker got laid off.  Do we still invite him to the wedding? 

Re: Do I invite an old co-worker?

  • I think you have to at this point since you already sent him a save the date
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  • Speaking from etiquette terms you are supposed to invite him. 

    Speaking from a personal stand point that is not etiquette related, I wouldn't.  What's the guy going to do, shun him at work and not be his friend?  Because one, he doesn't work there and two, they aren't friends. 
  • Yes, he still needs an invite.

    STD = invite.
  • stacejstacej member
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    If you are looking to cut people, I would say cut this person. But, if you are still ok with your numbers, you should definitely keep him on the list.
  • Yes, you need to invite him (and his significant other).  

    FI and I did not send STDs to any coworkers.  His company was going through layoffs, and he didn't want to have to worry about a situation such as yours.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-old-co-worker?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:354f82cf-bc5e-4c4b-863c-c1d2f083963ePost:e0757e71-cc3b-4e4d-88a6-ecb610ed274f">Re: Do I invite an old co-worker?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes, you need to invite him (and his significant other).   FI and I did not send STDs to any coworkers.  His company was going through layoffs, and he didn't want to have to worry about a situation such as yours.
    Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

    This is the exact reason I am not sending any save the dates to co-workers a lot can happen at work over 9 months or a year. 
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  • I would not be inviting at all. To me this is the equivalent of kicking a bridesmaid or groomsman out of the wedding party. You don't do it unless you are fully prepared to end any relationship/friendship with that person. In this case, it seems you will never talk to or even see this person again. Cut him from the guest list. May he find it rude? Who cares. You'll never see him again. I disagree with the whole STD=invite rule. There are exceptions. They may be few and far between, but they are there. And this is one.
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