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Question about rehersal dinner

Another question, sorry!

We our having our wedding rehersal around 5:30 at our church. They have a nice little hall downstairs with a stove, fridge, etc.

We were thinking of asking everyone in the wedding party to bring a simple dish, crock pot, cheese platter, etc and having a small, simple rehersal dinner at the church.
Is it bad etiquitte to ask people to bring a dish? Should we provide it all?

Re: Question about rehersal dinner

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    Yes, that's rude. Those people are there to spend the day with you and celebrate, not to cook dinner for you, even the rehearsal dinner. You are HOSTING these guests all the way through your wedding (rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception). It is no ones responsibility to provide for them but your own.

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    You need to provide it all.  The rehearsal dinner is a thank you from the couple for coming to rehearsal.  That being said, it can be something as cheap as pizza.  Totally up to you guys!  Good luck!
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    We will probably end up taking the day off from work, and making a few pasta dishes. Thanks for the advice, just didn't know!
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    you should provide the food yourself.

    You can even just bring in pizza or sandwiches.

    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    Yeah you need to be the host. It doesn't have to be extravagant- pizzas or heros would be fine, but it isn't right to expect your guests to bring the food.

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    Sorry, but you need to host it yourself and pay for all associated costs.  That means no potlucks.  Your guests should not be shopping, cooking, or serving themselves.
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    My sister did exactley what you are doing. She got a nice deli tray w/salads & brought cookies & brownies for dessert. It was very nice.

    Check with your local pizza places, many of them probably sell pasta that you can get by the pan. This way you can just pick up a pan of pasta, salad & some pizza & put the pizza & pasta in the oven on low to keep it warm until you are ready to eat it. Might be a little more expensive then doing it yourself, but a whole lot easier & will free up your time to do any other last minute items you will need to take care of.
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