We are having a small wedding, and there is one block of people I am concerned about inviting.
I worked for a family business (metal fabrication) for a year and a half before I moved to be with my fiance when he came home from Afghanistan. I got the job thru my best friend; it's his family's business. In the time I worked there, I worked with 12 other people between the two offices that mostly became like my family: My best friend Brian, his grandfather, his mother & father, his cousin, his brother, brother's best friend, and 5 other long term employees; one who's wife hates me because she was convinved her husband was trying to get wth me. Great.
All of these people and their applicable sig others (including crazy wife) are invited. I'm hesistant about inviting a few of them, because we were not close, but I can't very well invite most of them and leave out a few, right? That's question number one, I guess. Question number two would be the one person I do NOT want to invite: Brian's sister.
She did not actually start working at the offices with us until I only had 2-3 months left. She is rude, conceited, selfish and arrogant, and never speaks to anybody. I couldn't stand having to see her every day, and even Brian says "I'm sorry my sister is such a bitch." Now he's telling me that even though he's certain she won't show up, I have to invite her, because it isn't fair to invite everybody except for her.
She has said less than a dozen words to me in the entire time I have been friends with (and lived with!!) Brian; and I was at nearly every family function for the year and I half I was in the area and working there. Now Brian says it's not fair not to invite her; even though he doesn't think she's show up anyway. Honestly, I don't want to take the chance.
What are your thoughts? I would like to not invite her, instead of wasting our time of going thru the charade of sending an invite and waiting for the formality of a no.
The other issue with this block of people is that I feel somewhat obligated to invite them, but they have not been close with me since I left, and play games with me constantly about the few things I still do for them from down here. I feel kind of obligated to send invites to them now that I have discussed the whole thing with Brian; should I invite them all and then just hope most won't show up?
On that note, I guess I should ask about this other girl (I'm so sorry for the length).
Mine and Brian's (my former, his current) roommate Jenn: we got along alright most of the time while we lived together, but times I have returned to visit she treats me like crap and has stated on one visit home that "Ithan and Tiffany are NOT to stay here, because I don't like Ithan" (Brian's words to me - and Ithan never did anything to Jenn). Now she expects that she is invited, asking question about the wedding like when and where. Frankly, I don't want her there... mom, Ithan, everybody except Brian says "Hell no, don't invite her!" Then there's Brian again, saying that if I don't invie her it'll hurt her feelings.
Um, hello. Telling me I cannot stay at BRIAN'S house because SHE doesn't like Ithan? Sounds like she was hurting feelings first, to me... unless Brian lied to me.
So.... invite etiquette vs. invite logic. What is your input?
Thank you!
So every sweet with sour is tempered still that maketh it be coveted the more
For easy things that may be got at will most sorts of men do set but little store.
Why then should I account of little pain
That endless pleasure shall unto me gain?