How many months before the wedding should my bridal tea be??

cmrnkirk

I have seen some people do 1 month some 4 so I am confused?

laurenpm

I'm having mine about a month before.  I would say 3 months or less is fine.  4 months may be too far out.

cmrnkirk

We are doing a tea instead of a shower. I imagine they are the same?? I'm kinda new at all this bridal stuff. Thank you for your help

cmrnkirk

I was just worried about all my parties (Tea, lingerie shower, bachelorette party etc) being so much in a small ammount of time.

CassieeK

You're having a tea instead of a shower but then having a lingerie shower?  Now I'm confused.

b0710

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[QUOTE]I imagine you're having a tea with family & friends.  And  maybe a lingerie shower with just friends your age?  If this is the case then I would have the tea 2 or 3 months before your wedding and have the lingerie shower and the bachelorette party at the same time (get together, do the lingerie gift etc. and then go out for your bachelorette party) the month of your wedding.  This only works though if the guest list for the lingerie shower + bachelorette party would be the same.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

I was thinking this same thing!  That's what I would do (am doing) too.

laurenpm

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[QUOTE]I imagine you're having a tea with family & friends.  And  maybe a lingerie shower with just friends your age?  If this is the case then I would have the tea 2 or 3 months before your wedding and have the lingerie shower and the bachelorette party at the same time (get together, do the lingerie gift etc. and then go out for your bachelorette party) the month of your wedding.  This only works though if the guest list for the lingerie shower + bachelorette party would be the same.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
This.  People don't want to be invited to an event every weekend so if you space it out like bree has suggested and combine the lingerie shower and bach party it will be much easier on your guests.  

mandi921vh

Usually the bridal shower/tea occurs a few months prior to the wedding. 

FutureMrsFezz

I've never heard of a bridal tea.  Interesting.

mica178

I'm sure Kristin#s has a definite timeline for these things, but I've seen the bridal tea done a few days before the wedding (that tea was just for the WP and closets female relatives) or 1-3 months before (those teas were in lieu of bridal showers).

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

The real answer is: whenever the host is able to host it. But if the host is someone who is not familiar with these things, then yes, I guess up to 3 months would be fine.

You also don't have to do ALL those parties. You can skip the tea or the lingerie shower if they're too much of a burden on your guests.

bbrown185

I did a bridal tea party as well and it was this past Saturday.  My wedding is in July so I would say 2-3 months out would be fine.

cmrnkirk

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[QUOTE]You're having a tea instead of a shower but then having a lingerie shower?  Now I'm confused.
Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]

LOL I am having a Bridal tea at some point and then a more informal lingerie party (shower)

cmrnkirk

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[QUOTE]I imagine you're having a tea with family & friends.  And  maybe a lingerie shower with just friends your age?  If this is the case then I would have the tea 2 or 3 months before your wedding and have the lingerie shower and the bachelorette party at the same time (get together, do the lingerie gift etc. and then go out for your bachelorette party) the month of your wedding.  This only works though if the guest list for the lingerie shower + bachelorette party would be the same.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]


That's a good idea!! My tea is for family & friends and my lingerie party would just be friends. I can't imagine my future mother-in-law being there when I opened up those gifts! LOL

cmrnkirk

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[QUOTE]I've never heard of a bridal tea.  Interesting.
Posted by FutureMrsFezz[/QUOTE]


I believe the difference is a tea is more of people come and go and bring gifts and is more formal versus a shower where people stay and play games or something.

mkrupar

So people still bring gifts to teas? The only time I've heard of a bridal tea is when it happened two days before the wedding and it was just that. Tea for the Bride, BMs, mom's, maybe a few close friends. The bride was the host. No gifts were involved except some favors from the bride to her guests.

Has someone offered to host all of these parties for you or are these the parties you want? Someone has to offer before you (actually they since they're hosting) can plan when it's going to be.

cmrnkirk

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[QUOTE]So people still bring gifts to teas? The only time I've heard of a bridal tea is when it happened two days before the wedding and it was just that. Tea for the Bride, BMs, mom's, maybe a few close friends. The bride was the host. No gifts were involved except some favors from the bride to her guests. Has someone offered to host all of these parties for you or are these the parties you want? Someone has to offer before you (actually they since they're hosting) can plan when it's going to be.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]


Yep. Two of my best friends offered to throw the parties for me. The reason the time frame is an issue is because I will be in my last semester of nursing school and so I will be doing precepting and tests and I am not sure when I will have time for everything. Its really stressful. Maybe calling it a "tea" is a southern thing...I'm not sure.